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writes:I had been with my boyfriend almost 4 years, we have a 2 year old son. We are both 22.We got into an argument earlier, he took our son out with his parents at 9.30 and I asked him to have him back for 11 so we could take him out somewhere we had planned. He only came back at 1.30. I'd been tidying the house and broke a coffee table whilst moving it. When my boyfriend got home and I told him he went mad, chucked a lot of my belongings and said he was leaving. I'm so upset, I don't know what to do. Since my son has been born he's left us a few times in a temper but this time I think it's for good.He's given me 2 days to get my stuff. He can be a horrible person but when things are good they are really good. But he can be very insulting and mean. I really want to try and get over him why I think this is it for him, I don't think he will want to be a family again. It's 10pm and he's come back once for some of his stuff he said I'd 'destroy' then left again and I haven't heard anything since. I don't know what to do, I want to not want him but I miss him. I'm worried about where me and my son are going to go. I'm worried he's going to find someone else straight away and I will end up on my own. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2012): Thanks for the replies, I do work. I've been back at work since my son was 1 and maternity finished. Feels worse that someone could just throw their family away like it was nothing :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2012): Why should you move? This is Great Britain where the mother and child are protected by law.. If he wants to let him go.. See your landlord or council about taking over the tenancy.. You have your son, he only has himself .to think of...Then get down to job centre and see what financial aid your entitled to and phone up tax credits, getting a job at the minute I know is near impossible, and with your son being two and depending on who you have for child care, can be hard.If me, I'd look at expanding my knowledge I'd do a open university course, you can do short course to see what you like( my friend did these before returning to work) I'd wait until he was in nursery or back at school full time before pursuing a career but I'd make a start..I'd also get mr perfect to cough up his share and be responsible and stop acting like a baby with his son..This will feel rather daunting and overwhelming but you can do it.. You have inner strength, do not worry if he finds someone else even though your heart is breaking it the minute in the long run this will be for the best.. Honestly you o not want to be with someone who can drop you at the slightest thing..Keep your home do not move out, get the financial assistance you need, be strong, look at course to develop your career choices get your nearly ex to take responsibility as well. And move on and focus on you and your son for a while.Take care and keep us posted
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (22 October 2012):
 So you are more worried about being alone then being with an abusive guy?
Nothing you write about him makes him out to be a decent partner at all, and honestly not really a very good role-model for your son either (with how he treats you).
Guess you need to focus on getting a job, a place to live and to take care of your child.
It's just not right for anyone to use "I'm leaving" as emotional blackmail when ever you do something that makes him mad. If he was 5 year old I could maybe understand such a tantrum but for a guy who is old enough to be a dad? No. It's ridiculous.
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