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writes:For five months I've known him and we've argued more than I have through any previous relationship! He's stubborn and selfish with anger issues-he knows this. I'm secretive, vindictive and have issues I haven't yet dealt with...my first boyfriend was wonderful and I didn't feel I deserved him. This boyfriend I've known for five months is a good man wrapped in issues but I do care about him. He's not perfect, he can be an asshole but all the same, I feel like he's the one I deserve at this stage of my life. Being with him had actually helped me finally voice my anger when I've been too scared to begore. Is it ok to think this way? Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (30 June 2015):
 NO ONE DESERVES to be treated badly.
IF he is an asshole, then he's an asshole. IF you think that's all you DESERVE I suggest you get into some therapy to work through your lack of self-esteem.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2015): This may sound a bit corny... But relationships are not just about how the other person acts or behaves... People cant help being who they are and its things like this that makes you think of two options...
1 is he the man for your life
2 is he the one you need right now
....find yourself and embrace his faults...things never stay the same you may grow and tolerate his flaws...or hell you may even love his personality. But its this type of relationship that makes you ask the question do you prefer if he changed. As far as i care about other guys relations as long as he loves you deaply any other fault he may have is not entitely his fault.
You may confront him with his actions and personality if you have to but ...there may come a time that he's just under a phase too.
People change & emotions change but if love is in there to begin with you have nothing to worry about. Things take time to full develop ... I just trust that you love each other to wait
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