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writes:Ive been friends with this boy, jon, for 10 years. We went out with each other at the beginning but now we are just good mates. A couple of months back, we talked about getting back together but then things happened in my life which stopped me from doing that so we didnt speak about it again. Now he;s seeing someone else. Im hurt that he has just gone and started seeing someone after what we had spoken about. I never see him anymore cos hes with her. But in the back of mind I know that I would never of got back with him anyway as I dont have feelings for him anymore, and I think the only reason we suggested it was cos we had had a bit to drink and cos I was hurting over someone else who I had just split wiv. But all I can think about is how can he do that to me? Ive done so much for him and he just goes off with another girl. Ive had it out with him and he jus says he was sick of waiting, but he knows I couldnt of doen anyting at the time cos of wot was going on in my life. Ive told him I dont want nothing to do with him if he carrys on seeing her, I wont even be his friend. Am i being unreasonable? My other friend says I am and Im acting like this cos I cant handle the rejection. Reply to this Question
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reader, Alex4868 +, writes (17 May 2008):
 THe exact same thing has happened to me (cept ive liked the boy for a couple of months)i feel really jealous but i think you are being a lot unreasonable, give him some time maybe it will blow over, so just stick with him and if he is hurt youll be there and he'll remember that.
Well thats wat im doing for my boy!
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (16 May 2008):
 Rejection is a stange animal. I believe you somehow thought of him as yours even though you never planned on proceeding with a relationship. Exactally what was he to do, wait for you to come around, which you say you never would have.
I think you are being unreasonable. People get lonely and friends just aren't enough sometimes. I can't see your age but maybe he felt he should get on with things and find someone special to be with, raise a family and all. You are just hurt and feeling rejected. If you cared about him at all, even if you loved him, deep down you should be happy for him. I know you are hurting and this is very hard on you. He's moved on and there you are alone. Turn the tables. What if you had found someone? Would he have supported you, still been your friend, been happy for you? I do not think you are being a good friend. You've given him an ultimatum that you will not be his friend if he choses to be with this new girl. You may well lose a friend.
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