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writes: HiMy b/f is going to a biker rally in myrtle beach for a week. Looking at pictures of it and the bars--it pretty much looks like a girls gone wild video. Girls flash and take their tops off, the girls who work there are wearing almost nothing--there are wet t-shirt contests and other stuff that pretty much degrades women and is an excuse for guys just to gawk at them. And i guess the other part of it is the bikes and drinking--i'm worried my b/f will make a drunken mistake or get tempted to cheat because of these women. We have talked about it and he said i don't care what environment it is, i know how i am and you shouldn't worry no matter where i go. He also told me he has been to madi gra twice and never did anything with anyone and i think mostly because it is easy to catch something. So--this environment kind of reminds me of the same thing and maybe that would be the reason to stop him from cheating if tempted.My older brother said I can't control what he does or him going away--he said 2 of his friends sleep with anything but when they went to madi gra they didn't do anything sexual either for the same reasons. He also said most cheating would take place in his area--with someone he knows, or knew for a while or at work--not some random girl at a biker rally with him asking lets go back to the hotel. He said he doesn't need to go away to cheat even if its this place--he can do it right here and thats why i shouldn't be too concerned about this thing and that i have to trust but also not be stupid. What does everyone think???
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reader, matron +, writes (10 May 2006):
 Hi, you dont say how long you've known your b/f not that that realy matters, relationships are based on trust,without trust you have nothing to build on. Is there any reason why you couldn't go with him? I think you should agree to him going, tell him to have a good time and really mean it,if he wanted to cheat on you he could do that at the bottom of the road!You are obviously insecure within this relationship,you've maybe been hurt in past relationships, but you cant judge every relationship you have by the previous one. Jealousy is a disease that can eat away at you, it's normal to feel pangs of jealousy but it can take over your life.Think of all the nice things your b/f has said to you and done for you and while he's away remember them, when he comes back ask how his time was but dont interegate him, give him lots of love to show how much you missed him, tell him what you got up to with your mates and then move on.He chose to be with you for the person you are, you are who he wants to be with, enjoy the relationship, ignore the negative thoughts. None of us know what the future holds,dont create problems and heartache by always imagining the worst.Deal with problems as they arise and if he turns out to be a cheat walk away and be glad that you can, he wont be worth crying over and you'll know you can do better.Be happy.
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