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writes:Me and this boy have been talking for a while now and are practically dating we want to make it official but there is only one thing stopping us he leaves to be in the army in three months for twelve months, twelve months is a long time and a lot can change in that time, I've liked him for too long to give us up What do you think I should do Reply to this Question
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (7 May 2013):
 Unfortunately WiseOwl is correct. The only way you can hang on to him is to already be in a committed relationship with him, way before his departure. Or if he's willing to put a ring on your finger and walk down the aisle. But you will still be sitting at home waiting for your man to come back from training,
I'm an Army wife and I see this all the time. Service men and women will have significant others, but play when given the chance.
Yes, a long distance relationship is possible, but it isn't for every one. He's going to be away a lot, there will be times when he cannot contact you because he's way too busy with training. There's only X amount of leave time he can take. So it's best to save 30 days for Christmas or summer holidays when he has allowed to take it. You have to know this man, have a lot of trust and faith in him. Plus you have to be one of those independent women and have things to do to occupy your time, while he is away.
It's not easy and if you decide this is for you, then good luck to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2013): Start seeing someone else. No sense in sitting around waiting for a guy who isn't committed to you. I guarantee he will not be sitting around waiting to get back to you. He will be away and when he gets lonely, he'll date girls who are closer and readily available.You have only been talking. That isn't enough connection to even determine if he even wants you as a girlfriend. This is really a no-brainer. You aren't even dating this guy.You'll try to cling on by some long-distance relationship; while he's out with his buddies seeing other girls. Guys don't think like girls when it comes to sex and relationships. If you aren't already committed, he has no reason to remain faithful to you. Protect your heart and let him go.You don't put your life on hold for a casual acquaintance. You can rekindle something if he returns and you are both still single.
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