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writes:I have been married to a great guy for two years. He is in the military and is overseas right now.I have a trust issue, and I am very concerned about several things;He is addicted to pornsites,has posted on singles sites as available,has sexual dreams about other women, and wont come to me with his problems.This hurts me. whta do I do?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (26 May 2009):
The dreams are not an issue. He can't control them.
The porn is something you can overlook as long as it's not affecting your sex life when you get back. While he is away, just let him get on with it.
Not being able to talk to you is something he needs to work on. Military guys often prefer to talk to their co workers about things than their wives. In certain circumstances this can be a good thing. You just CANNOT help him when he talks about the stuff he has had to do because you have not done anything like it and will just be upset rather than helpful. I am an army wife and I know this to be true.
But the little things, he should be able to talk to you about.
The main issue you need to worry about here is the fact he's on singles websites. That counts as cheating. Tell him if he doesn't sort his act out and act like a husband then it's over.
Good Luck!! xx
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