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writes:I've been married to my husband for a month now, and things have been great so far... until now. We've got a three-year-old daughter and a four-year-old son.However, recently my husband's changed. He's began ranting about everything and anything, and doesn't even spend time with the kids.We were at a friend's 20th birthday party, and he spoilt it by ranting about everything, that it embarrassed me so much I had to leave.Another time, we went shopping to the local Tesco and he ranted about everything by the time we were at the checkout. I felt really upset and apologised to the assistant saying "Ignore my husband, he's just not feeling well!"No matter where we are, or what we're doing, he rants about it eventually and I feel really upset and embarrassed.I tried asking him why he feels he has to rant so much, but I just get met with a load more ranting.He's not physically abusive, or insulting/controlling, and he was lovely when we met. He was also very romantic too, which he isn't any more now.He's even ignored our kids to spend time upstairs ranting in his room, about everything.What should I do about his ranting?? I feel like I have nowhere to turn. I tried talking to my mum and dad about it, but they just didn't get it.I don't really know where to turn, so what do I do next?? How do I deal with it??please help me, Laura Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2007): Hi Laura,
This must be a depression hunny if this is so out of the ordinary as you have said. I no he will probably argue like hell with you hunny but he has to see a doctor pronto. If you really know someone as well as you know your husband then this must not only be very stressfull but very worrying for you as this must go on in front of the children and they are not used to daddy acting this way.
Something is worrying him to the point of not being able to comunicate with you just to yell and rant at every little hicup in life, Try and get him to see a doc love as there could be anything wrong he needs tests hunny take care with love mandy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2007): He sounds like he may be suffering from depression, or has suffered a loss recently or even has a brain tumor! Sudden changes in mood like that are signs he needs to see a doctor, it may be difficult to get him to go though....enlist the help of someone else if you have to, a family member or close friend of his? Is he a drinker or on drugs perhaps? Those are also warning signs of substance abuse...and some substance abusers are masters at hiding their addiction...you need to do some investigative work here.
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reader, rcn  +, writes (9 November 2007):
 Dear Laura:
I'm sorry, I know this is an issue, but I had to laugh. It reminded me of the tv program "the honeymooners" The husband was always ranting and raving. My daughter said to tell him to "build a bridge and get over it."
What is he ranting and raving over. Are they important issues, or non important? Some examples of what it is he's complaining about would help.
Thank you.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (8 November 2007):
 This sounds strange. There might be something really bothering your husband or perhaps he has some sort of mental problem. It sounds like you might need some third party help.
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