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writes:I have been married for almost a year. I married my best friend last November. I cannot explain how much I love him, he is amazing. In January he got a new job and he started chaning. We bought a house and I instantly became invisible. He never looks at me, he is content with sex once a month, but talking to him about it is no problem, because we are best friends. I just wonder, after 10 months of converstations of how transparent I feel, what should I expect.Do I need to resign myself to 50 years of little to no sex? I am in the best shape of my life. I have cried, laughed, screamed, spoken frankly, I have no clue what is next.I have asked him to get help and I have told him I am so entirely close to cheating its not funny. I don't know what else to do?
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reader, ShalomAshem +, writes (15 November 2010):
There could be more than one thing going on here. Certain prescription drugs can turn sex drive off.
Another thing it could be is diet, exercise, and/or health.
The third thing I can think of is you may be his cover girl to hide that he may be gay. I doubt it is the third thing because you are best friends and he would tell you what it is unless he is a master of keeping it secret and in the closet.
The fourth thing is he may be having a relationship on the side with another girl. I would suspect this if you ever had a sex life that was at a sufficient, satisfying level.
The fifth thing is that guys are mainly visual and if you weigh like 500 pounds and are 4 foot 2 in all honesty it can be a bit of a turn off. If you are 108 pounds and 5 foot 3 and look cute then obviously disregard this.
One thing I can determine though is you can not pin down the exact cause of not enough sex even though you are "best friends". Obviously something is being hidden here.
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