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writes: my boyfriend is in new zealand for a semester so he'll be back in dec. and weve been together a little over a year. what am i suppose to do when he rarely calls, never does what he says hes going to do anymore (get on aim, get a phone card, etc.) just basically taking me for granted.ive already went over this with him, and he changes for about a week and it slowly comes back. Do you think hes cheating or hes just busy? Reply to this Question
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reader, Ceilidh +, writes (25 November 2006):
Hi there,
I can't tell you whether or not he's cheating. He's certainly distracted by something. He may be busy. He may be making new friends. He may be overwhelmed by schoolwork. Or maybe he is just taking you for granted. No matter what it is, he's not being considerate to you, and that's not cool.
If it's a matter of him being busy, it might be as simple as arranging a time for the two of you to talk so that it fits in his schedule. For example, you could arrange with him to be on AIM from 8 to 8:30 on certain nights of the week or whatever.
But if his interest in the relationship is waning, what I would recommend is that you make sure that you're still doing things in your life, separate from the relationship, that are fun and interesting. That's good for you, and when you convey these things to him, it will remind him of why he fell for you in the first place.
Good luck,
Ceilidh
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