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writes:He's 29 and I'm 18... I don't think that I have a problem with it and he says he doesn't either. My parents could care less, but he told me to tell his parents I was 20 when we meet. I said I would not lie, and he said okay you dont have too. We just started dating and he seems to be really digging me as I am him, but I can't help think he's 29, he lives at home with his parents, has a kid, and no job... but he gives me such a rush... he brings life to me.All thoughts are welcomed....
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reader, Danielle934 +, writes (28 June 2006):
If your man doesn't have a job now then he is comfortable with being taken care of. For goodness sakes he is 29 and does not even support his own kid! Maybe the child is being well provided for by its grandparents, but don’t you think that if this guy really cared for his kid that he would want it to have even more? His parents are taking care of something that should be his responsibility! That right there should be a huge red flag! What makes you think he can be responsible for your feelings in a relationship if he can not even be financially responsible for his helpless child?
My brother in law is only 19, has a kid and is half way done training in school to become an electrician and has two jobs! He is trying to make a good life for his son instead of relying on his parents. This guy of yours should have done the same a long time ago… I mean he is 29 and has no career… almost half of his life is over! Where else can this relationship head but down the drain, unless of course you are perfectly fine with the idea of living with him at his parents house?
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reader, camille  +, writes (28 June 2006):
 I'm not here to patronize you, but you're 18, that's why he brings you to life. Ask yourself this hypothetical Q to establish exactly what it is you feel, 'If I had a friend or daughter and this was her choice of man, what advice would I give? How would I feel about it?'. Why waste some of the best years of your life on a 29 year old who lives with his parents, has a child and no job? I'm sorry but that's not someone you'd want to be tied to at your age. Go and have some fun. You say you don't have a problem with his age, but I think you do. And he does if he lied to his parents (and as his age too!). If he were 19 and living at home, with kid, no job, there'd probably only be the child that would bother you. He may be a good dad I don't know, but he's letting someone else provide for them. Do yourself a favour, get out now before you're sucked into his world any further.
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