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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hey people...So, me and my girlfriend have been dating for almost 3 years. Some people think that's amazing for teenagers lol. Anywayz, I almost don't want to ask this cause I love her so much. But I think she's double-dated/ cheated on me at least once in our relationship, or more than once with the same guy, and I want to know if you all think she has, and "if so", how do I bring it up around her? This guy never really worried me at first, because she assured me that even though he was an admirer, they were just friends. Well, for a short period of time we broke up, simply for some space to ourselves, and she dated him for a bit, but broke up with him, and we got back together. He still talks to her all the time, and tells her how much he loves her, but she always tells that she doesn't love him, and that their relationship was only based on her being lonely while we were apart, cause she wanted someone to be there.The worst part is, recently I went into her phone, NOT SEARCHING FOR EVIDENCE OF CHEATING, but just to read stuff, cause she doesn't mind, and there was a text from her to one of her friends that read, "I've made up my mind. No more of this two-timing shit. I'm staying with *Insert my name here*." Now I'm really concerned, and I just want to know the truth.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2010): You don't want to be with someone who you suspect has cheated on you. If you have evidence that she has cheated on you then you should run a mile.
I have a firm no-cheating policy, yet I cheated on my boyfriend once last year because I wasn't happy in the relationship and the temptation was too great.
Happy people don't cheat on their partners or keep secrets from them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2010): Well if, like you say, she doesn't mind you reading her messages on her phone, then just tell her that you were, and that you came across this text and were concerned. See what she says. If she really doesn't mind you looking at her messages, she won't accuse you of snooping or anything, and will just have to explain herself
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2010): Confront her. Clearly, she has not been honest with you, she has been dating the two of you. Never, ever accept sharing the person you love. Never.
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