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36-40,
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writes:It's gotten to the point that sometimes I wish he'd get terminally ill and just die. If he did, I'd finally feel free. I am so sick of him putting me down all the time, saying I am pathetic, worthless, he even said that he'd never want a daughter like me again in another lifetime. He tells lies to my mother and sister, and they both view me in the same light. I am the black sheep of the family. My mother is controlling. She hits me, she gets angry and calls me a 'bitch', and a 'ho'. She slaps me. I tell her about how my father no longer speaks to me or even refers to me as his daughter, and she gets defensive and says "what do you want me to do about it? he's good to me and pays the bills"I am so emotionally distraight. I thought about suicide. My mother is emotionally bankrupt and selfish. She only cares that her emotional needs are met. She doesn't seem to be phased by how I am having trouble in my life emotionally, how the distant relationship between my father and I is tearing me apart. And how her anger and controlling nature is cripling my spirit and self esteem.
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reader, 24yeahright  +, writes (31 January 2009):
Reality check - A lot of adults don't particularly like their parents. If you are in fact 20+ then it's time to start looking for a new place.
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reader, rcn +, writes (31 January 2009):
 Is your age stated correctly here? I'm wondering why you don't grab your cloths and get the hell out of there.
Your home seems as if there should be a warning sign "Enter at your own risk, may loose sanity." Let me guess. Dad works and pays the bills, mom stays home and allows your dad to take out his aggression on everyone in the family.
This is not a good place for you to be. Do you have a friend you can stay with? Reason being, they may be all screwed up, but I think you have a good head and shouldn't have to be the next victim stuck in their destructive path.
I know your having a hard time, and feel trapped. There are organizations and people out there who can help you. If you need counseling, work training, a violence victims advocate they are available in every city. I urge you to take advantage of the programs available to you. Or, if you choose, local churches have programs to assist those in these situations as well. Whatever it takes to get out of there.
Even though you've considered it, suicide is not an option. Why do that, so someone else can win? Being in this situation, you're the one who's strong. I want you to do what's safe, by gong somewhere that is safe. Don't drag their ignorance with you. Be the best person you can be even though your environment hasn't been the best.
Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2009): hiI will make this only brief. Are you not old enough to get away and build your life without the crap? Why stay where you are unhappy? You cannot change them but you can change how you feel! Many fathers are tossers, just accept the fact that yours is one too and move away.
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reader, Emajayne  +, writes (31 January 2009):
 There are multiple options. You could seek professional help such as family counseling. If you are still living at home i would suggest leaving and helping from a distance. If u are truly unhappy get urself away and try to do what u can...but in an indirect way. if u cannot sit down and talk with the people who should be closest to ur heart there should be some outside help deffinately. Intervention is key.
This is what a friend of mine things:
"The Phoenix rose from the ashes, thats a pretty powerful statement, in such a case as hers and u know, if ehr mother is like that, let that be a lesson for her, to become a better person, and to value herself as a better person than that of her family, show them that you are not pathetic, andif u believe that u have doe such that wat they say is for the only purpose to break u down and belittle your self esteem, then u know wat they r saying is a load of crap, adn they r not ppl worht having in your life. i think suicide is just as selfish so, she would just be doing wat they expect her to do, they have broken her down, and it is basically wexpected that she fail, so build urself up, surround urself with ppl who make u happy, and do things thats make u happy, and show them up they r not worth giving ur life for"
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