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male
age
41-50,
*hilae
writes:We have been together for a year and a half. My ex gf and I took a break about 2 months ago because we've been bickering. She's been stressed out at work, school, and dealing with a messed up family. She said she wanted to take some time to be single to deal with these stresses in her life, which, included me. Of course I didn't agree. Even with this break, we still acted like a couple. We both admit that feelings are still there, but I think it's odd because she's adamant about wanting to be single, even though she asks me if she could sleep over, hang out, and just lay with me. When we're together, it's great, but then she gets some time alone, she gets sad, then starts questioning why she spends so much time with me. Two weekends ago, it came to a head. She broke up 2 events with me, etc. Told me she didn't want to speak to me anymore, etc. So I just dropped it. Didn't talk to her for a week. This past Saturday, she calls me. Makes up an excuse to see if I was home all weekend because she's may come over to pick up the rest of her stuff, to which she knows she has everything.We talked for like 2.5 hours on the phone. She even came over to hang out that night. The next night we had dinner. She does some poking around, asking if I've been happy, etc, if I was dating.I told her I've been doing well, not really dating. She mentioned some girl that I could be set up with, and I told her that I actually would date that woman if I had the chance. That's when things went downhill.She started accusing me of dating so soon, etc. Brought up bad things I did in the relationship.We had a talk yesterday which was good and she ended up spending the night. So I ask, what is going on? She called me, asked me to dinner, even led me with the question "you should date this woman?" then all hell breaks loose! The next night, she spends the night and then just last night. I didn’t expect to see her last night. I just texted her how her studying is going, she said she was starving. So we agreed to get pizza. She came over. When she came over, she had her mouthwash thing, so this kinda gave me an idea that she wanted to stay the night. So we just talked about things. She thanked me for the pizza, and said she was going home. I asked her why, she said that she doesn’t want this to be a habit, etc etc. She again just said she needed to be single and figure stuff out, but she is happy that she is figuring stuff out. I told her that I still feel there is a connection between us, etc, and she said that sometimes she thinks we are too different, etc., etc. But then she goes, “Hey, it’s getting late. Can we talk about this in bed”? So she ended up staying the night. We didn’t talk about it anymore, just normal convo then we both passed out in each others arms.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2009): Moderator, this exact question has already been posted under a different heading?????????
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