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writes:I have been in a relationship with my fiance for almost 4 years and i dumped him 2 days ago coz I was starting to change after our last break, he started doing the things that he knows I don't like. when I asked him a question he answered me with another question, became sarcastic or rude we were suppose 2 get married on the 31st of December 2010. he went home on leave and will only be back in a month, it feels like he doesn't love me coz he won't fight for me. now I feel bad, but hurt coz I know he will never change. how will I ever get over someone I love so deeply
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reader, sexi suga  +, writes (20 September 2010):
hmm i have to disagree with tennisstar88. The reason is you dont have to tolerate anything, he should be that character you fell in love with coz that is the person you love/ loved... the person he has become over the recent months/ years is not the person you love... you loved the person he was, the respectful, kind and appreciative person he was in the early stages of the relationship.
to be honest im in the same position, that why i can comment in the way i have. i have learnt that the man will never change back into the person he was, as people grow older they change, opinions change, values change and people just do grow apart. people begin to want different things and that just something you have to either accept or leave.
the choice i had was to accept the new him and learn to love that new being or to realise that the new him isnt what you want and only you know what you want. once you know what you want from either him or your realtionship than you can decide. its only been 2days since i decided that i want more/ different things, things that he used to be able to offer but now just doesnt hence i made the decision to move on... dont get me wrong i still love him but i am beginning to learn that i want more and i deserve to get what i want.. :) good luck sweetie and trust me it will take time but always remember that you are entitled to whatever it is you want... you are too in the relationship :) xx
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (18 September 2010):
 Sorry a head of time if I sound rude. But that's a really stupid reason to break up with him. If he's always been like that then no he's not going to change..and you knew that this whole time even before he proposed. So you can either learn to accept him for who he is, or move on with your life. Him answering a question with question is something a lot of people do, you need to learn to tolerate it. By breaking up with him over something that petty proves your not ready to be engaged let alone married.
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