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writes:Hey Ive been seeing this guy for a few weekes now, last weekend he invited me over to his place to cook me dinner..and invited me to stay the night..which i happily accepted..lol Anyway so we hop into bed and talked for a while and then he told me hes not really in the mood to fool arround tonihght..he doesnt know why..but it just was not happening down there..i did not want to make him feel bad so i just said its fine and not to worry about it and cuddled up and went to sleep. We talked about it alittle more the next morning after he brought it up again, and i told him again it was fine and these things happen and not to stress about it..that i was fine and didnt care. He told me he really wanted to have sex and things buit for some reason it just wasnt happening for him...(Dont know why i couldnt help..lol) but anyway so later in the morning i went home and we chatted alittle..he told me he had been doing lots of soul searching after i left...So im thinking he feels uncomfortable about the night i stayed over...how can i ease his mind?..Do u think he would feel upset an uncomfortable? I have not dated in a while so i dont really kknow how it goes!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2009): I know it seems old fashioned, but guys have a secret that they don't tell you, they wish you would turn them down for sex when you first start dating....a man will start to wonder if you are that easy to get into bed, then what other man has been on top of you recently....they get to feeling you are cheap, not girlfriend material....because what a guy is looking for is the same things we are looking for if they are seriously wanting a love relationship. They want emotional connection, they want to feel they connect with you on a mental and spiritual level as well.
If you don't stop putting sex above friendship, then you have a weak foundation for a relationship.
He may have not wanted sex because of nerves, or because he was wishing you were not easy or because he has problems,...
Why don't you try saying no to sex....you still can do that and give this relationship some time to grow on it's own. If you start acting like a girlfriend and expecting nightly bec checks and daily phone calls, etc, it is going to trigger his I want to stay single response and he will back away.
Never pursue a man more than he is pursuing you...it never works, never.
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reader, Squirtle1706 +, writes (27 January 2009):
 Ive been with my bf for 8 months and hes had nights like that. i dont mind them. if he cant then im happy to just kiss him and cuddle him and have him gentle with me. tell your person to stop worrying and that your happy to just spend a night in his arms and that just causeb he wasnt in the mood then doesn't mean he wont be another night. just tell him to relax cause it isnt that weird. im sure he just wasnt horny
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