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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:We'd been really close and intimate. i thought we were going to be in a special relationship soon because he told me we were having something special.recently i was questioning him texting other girls and we brought up the 'freedom' matter. well he thinks it's a freedom to text any girls he wants to. anyway, he knows how much it'd hurt me every time i think of him doing that.i asked him if i was just an ordinary friend to him and he suggested that we'd be best friends, just like what he's doing with some other girls! he said he didnt want to hurt me anymore and that he didnt want to confuse himself but he wants to remain close with me? eventually i made up my mind that i should stop any form of contact, at all.Did I make the right move, for I know it'd definitely hurt me more to be his "best friend" while loving him. Loving someone but not getting to own that person? It's going to hurt me more, isnt it?and just when i think about all the things he'd done, like, having dinner with me although he was so darn tired etc etc, it makes me think that it's a waste to give up on this love... =(thanks x
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reader, popeye78  +, writes (13 February 2010):
I think you have done the right thing, in time he may realise what a mistake he has made...I dont think you have to have complete no contact if you can take the emotional strain. Just dont get too close to him, a little reminder here and there of what he is missing will go a long way. Oh and if he comes running back, dont just accept him back, let him wait a lil (not too long).
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