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writes:i am 19 and have been dating my 23 year old boyfriend for 2 years. he wants to have sex, but i just feel that i am not ready. the very thought of sex just freaks me out. i feel i'm letting him down, he tells me he ubderstands but i know he is lying.please help me Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2008): When you first got together with him, I'll bet you were big to tell yourself that his age doesn't matter and you're mature enough for an older guy like this, right?
Well, if it really doesn't matter, and if you're really mature enough to handle it, then you'll make him wait just as much as you would make any virgin guy your own age wait.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2008): Okay, you need to relax;take a deep breath! You have nothing to feel guilty about;
NEVER have sex with anybody unless you feel willing and ready; you are not letting your boyfriend "down";
you need to WANT TO have sex; rather then to do it as a "duty" or to do it not to let him "down";
If he loves you and respects you he will understand and value your feelings;
I do suggest you communicate with him about your feelings; and there is no need to feel "freaky" about sex; at the right time with the right person it is wonderful BUT only when you are EMOTIONALLY and PHYSICALLY ready for it;
DO NOT allow guilt feelings and DO NOT be pressured into it.
You will know when you are ready and when you want it.
Best wishes and lots of SMILES.
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reader, Rhandy  +, writes (9 August 2008):
 if you feel youre not ready please dont do it, you might get in troubled in the near future or maybe his not meant for you, i rather suggest to give yourself to sam1 you really love or after marrieGE
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2008): Don't do it if your not ready. You may end up regretting it. And if he loves you and really understands as he says he does, then he will not mind waiting for you to become comfortable with sex.
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reader, JESSIE365  +, writes (9 August 2008):
 im 15 and i was so scared to losse my virginity and my boyfriend told me he understood i wanted to wait but i did not belive him so i had sex with him anyways now im here scared to death thinking im pregnant with no help really at all what im trying to say is wait till ur ready dont let him pressure u into things u dont wanna do
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