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writes:Ok, I am imterested in this guy at work who has told me he just wants a bit of fun now and again, the problem is I have never had any interaction with a bloke and I don't want him to know, how can I become more confident or come across more confident without him guessing that I have never had sex or anything.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (27 August 2008):
If you have never had sex then DO NOT go out with this guy.
You don't have the experience or confidence to control your feelings. You'll get very very hurt by him when he treats you badly. Because he is going to treat you like a casual mate and not a girlfriend.
Don't let your first time be some guy's "bit of fun." You are worth more than that.
Plus the fact he is going to be able to tell that you are a virgin as soon as it's too late, and if he's a nice guy, then that is going to make him feel terrible.
Tell him that you are looking for a boyfriend and not a sex buddy.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Befuddled1 +, writes (27 August 2008):
 Eh? A bit of fun now and again?Hmm, that sounds a bit ropey. Hope he isn't married girl.If you feel like you'll be happy having a bit of fun every now and again then go for it. He doesn't know what experience you've had and we all have to start somewhere.I've always found it a bit awkward with someone new and couldn't do anything intimate with a man unless i have feelings for him.If i were you i'd go on a date or 2 and see what happens, Don't do anything you don't want to...women who have had other partners don't always dive into something straight away and if you do want to take things further just go with the flow and enjoy it.Don't get yourself a reputation at work though honey, might be better to wait for someone who wants a bit more than a bit of fun. You are worth more than that no?x
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2008): Well i may not be a girl. But i no alot of em and they ask me
for advice (not alot but when they need it) and i am a guy so
i would know.
-simply read a book about it
One fella who....just cares....
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