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writes: I've been in a wonderful relationship with a great man for 6 months. On our first date I asked him if he had been in a relationship since he separated from his wife two years ago. He said that there is only one person that he has wanted a relationship with and thats his friend Jill. He said he tried and tried but she just wanted to stay friends. He is good friends with her, her family and all her friends and he wants me to meet them all. I dont feel comfortable with this at all and up to this point I have not met them. I asked him that if she changed her mind and came to him now saying she wanted a relationship with him what would he do, his answer was "It didn't happen before and it wont happen now". Not too comforting for me.What do I do? As far as I know he has not seen any of his friends since we've been dating. Reply to this Question
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reader, mommyofthree +, writes (9 December 2005):
 He came out with the information in the beginning of the relationship so he was probably hoping that being honest would help to ease any fears you may have in the future about his friendship with her. Also, he wants you to meet all of them, men who are going to cheat don't usually parade their girlfriends around in front of the people they want to cheat with, so I really don't think you have anything to worry about. I would like to note that avoiding his friends and encouraging him to avoid them is a recipe for disaster as the relationship moves forward, you need to accept his friends and show him that you are willing to try to be a part of his world just as he is a part of yours, in the end you wouldn't want him to grow to resent you for keeping him from everyone he knows.
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