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writes:Any suggestions? We have been together for 11 months. However he uses his anger to distance himself from me. Whenever I get upset or hurt over something he does or something that happens he gets angry.. He expresses this anger by distancing himself and giving me the silent treatment not discussing anything. Sometimes this silent treatment can last for a month. I know he loves me but I feel this is not normal behavior at least something I have never experienced. Is there some underlying problem that I cant see due to being to close? I sometimes feel that he uses this as a way not to get too close. Can anyone shead some light? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2009): I think he gets hurt when you get upset because he couldnt see any valid reason to get upset. So he could be taking it very personal. Going silent is better than many other forms of reaction but it lasting a month is way too much. I agree with others that he is behaving like a child in this regard. It is like trying to take revenge which is not nice. You gotta make him realize that he needs to handle things in a better way.
By the way silence is a form of abuse? Is this another invention of feminists? No wonder these days many men have started to ignore anything feminists say.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2009): Silence can be deafening! It is a form of abuse! Do you try to communicate with him when he behaves this way? Or do you succomb to his silence and become silent too?
If I was experiencing this with my guy, I would demand he talk about it and resolve this problem. It is not healthy for him to keep his feelings bottled up inside! Maybe counseling would be helpful, if he would be willing. You need to let him know how it is effecting you! I agree with Armymedic...he sounds like a sulking child!
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reader, ArmyMedic  +, writes (8 March 2009):
 Sounds like a sulky child are you sure he loves you, or does he just say that after sulking for a while because no-one else will have him?
He sounds like a waste of time.
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