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writes:I am a 14 year old male (15 in october :D) and my name is Dean. My best friend's parents and mine are childhood friends and my parents are out of town a lot, so I stay with my best friend's family whenever my parents are away. My best friend has an older brother and we have always gotten along well. He is three years older than me (making him 18), let's call him... T. T's family's house is kind of small, and whenever I stay over, I sleep in T's bedroom because my best friend shares his room with his sister. It never bothered me, but lately T has taken an interest in me. It started about two months ago when one day I felt someone grab my ass, I thought it may have just been an accident, but when I turned to see who did it, T winked at me. My best friend didn't seem to notice anything, and I never mentioned it. But then, that night when I was in bed waiting for T to get into his bed and turn out the lights, he walks into the room, closes the door (he always did) and then bends down next to me and brushes my fringe back from my forehead and kisses me on the forehead. I lay there stunned as he grinned and got into his bed, the lights were soon out and I decided to pass it off as T just being brotherly. But it started happening more frequent and lets just say he took my first kiss and many more after that. I tried talking to him about it, but it would usually end with him trying to stick his tongue down my throat and then him saying that if I told anyone about it, he'd hurt me. It stayed like that for a while (and I have no doubts that he could break my neck if he wanted to, he is a black belt in taekwondo and does weights once a week) until I was restling with my best friend one day. He had me pinned on the ground and then he started to tickle me with one hand, I squirmed and he lost balance and crashed down on me. We smacked foreheads and then he put his head on my shoulder. We both groaned in pain and then T walked in. I caught his gaze and he looked furious. That night, my best friend and his parents left to get dinner and i was left alone with T. He practically tried to rape me in the loungeroom, but before he really could, my best friend and his parents arrive home. He glared and told me 'you're mine', he left me and walked into his room. It freaked me out so much, he is so strong and he continually threatens to hurt me if I tell anyone. I'm really scared because my parents are leaving town soon and everytime I go over he tries to rape me again. I don't know wat to do, PLEASE help me! I'm freaking out here!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2009): tell your parents IMMEDIATELY.and to the female anon who doubted you due to your perfect grammar then please ignore her.she is basically suggesting all 13-15yr olds are dumb,which isnt fair on smart people such as yourself.in the meanwhile find a way to defend yourself using ANY MEANS NECESSARY! good luck and take care x
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2009): Tell your parents or his parents, tell you best friend or have the counsellor tell your parents, you cant mess around with someone like this, he's dangerous.
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reader, Dean13 +, writes (12 July 2009):
Dean13 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionEveryone, thank you for your answers... And, okay, i WILL tell someone.... it is scary, but i will tell my guidance councilor at my school... I'm going to tell my best friend tonight about what is going on. He is coming over for dinner. Thank you, all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2009): Hmmmmm....13-15?? If this is a real poster (I'm afraid cynically I have my doubts due to grammar etc) then you need to tell someone. You obviously know this is wrong and you will end up being raped, so if thats what you want, don't say anything. If you're for real, you are in danger and MUST TELL SOMEONE IMMEDIATELY!
What I will say is if this isn't a real post then you should be ashamed of yourself. I was assaulted as a child and its no joke.
Good luck, either with telling a grown up or growing up dependent on the authenticity of this post...
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reader, myx shootingstar  +, writes (11 July 2009):
 Tell someone RIGHT NOW. Call the cops, a guidance consuler, anyone! If your too afraid to go to your parents. He WILL hurt you. Rape means they don't care how you feel. But if you stop him now then he'll never be able to hurt you. And he can get help. Stay away from him. And get help quick before I see you on the news as a rape victim.
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reader, Arron27  +, writes (11 July 2009):
I know its hard and you don't want to say anything because you feel you risk upsetting your best friend and his family. But dr Psych is right. You need to protect yourself and so far you have managed to get away, but one day you won't. And he'll keep doing it over and over and over again until he gets bored. YOU will be the one left with the mental and emotional scars that will effect every relationship that you have in the future. You must be strong and tell someone. If you can't talk to your parents, then is there an adult that you trust that you can talk to? A school counseller? But you do need to tell someone. Do not go back to your friends house under any circumstances. Good luck and be strong.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (11 July 2009):
 You should tell your parents and notify the authorities because this man is a sexual predator who will victimise children repeatedly if not stopped. It is common-practice for child abusers to suggest threats or bribes to keep their actions secret. Although physically smaller than this man, you have a voice and that makes you powerful. You need to speak out not only for yourself but for the safety of other young people in your community who may come into contact with him. You don't need to stay at that house when your parents are not home - tell them to find alternative care arrangements and seek help from the police as you have been sexually assaulted.
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reader, 3z4 pupp3t +, writes (11 July 2009):
Dean I know what your going through and I know got really scared but you have to live up to your fear and let your voice be heard...before your parents get out of town tell them that you need to talk to them about something that is bothering you explain to them what has happen beforeand how you felt about it....trust me they'll unsterstand and help you...don't let is nonsence threats scare you let someone know.....rape is never okay....well good luck
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