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writes:me and my boyfriend have been togeather for 6 years. i luv him alot. But i wonder if he really luvs me.He never takes me anywhere or buys me anything. If I ask him for anthing including sex. Its always NO! Whats the big deal, Id do anything for him. And he is very negative towards me lately.Im begining to think he is cheating on me. Im so sick of his actions towards me I honestly feel like leaving him. I am not happy like I used to be. He is killing me from the inside and out. My spirt means alot to me. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, DV1 +, writes (9 July 2007):
 It sounds like you aren't happy. If he's quick to say no to sex, or doesn't spend time or money on you, it's really not worth sticking around. It may be hard, but the best thing that you can do for yourself is to get rid of him and move on to better things.
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reader, leonard j.Douglas  +, writes (9 July 2007):
Hi He Treats Me Like crap.
Wish I Knew more about your early years together. And what He was like? Was there any physical love between you? And if there was, could he sexually please you? By Sexual-Pleasure, I mean, could he get an erection, and keep it up long enough to bring you to an orgasm? Did he take you places or buy you things way back when? Did he Masturbate then and now, that you know of. Sad to say there are lots of men who don't need a woman's body for sexual service, just other services. And that I call Emotional and Physical abuse,they're just people-users. As for cheating on you. Well there is a good chance that if he had a problem getting or keeping an erection with you. He will have the same problem with any other woman. Sometimes a man who is having ED-"Erection-Disfunction". Will take his self-hate out on the woman in his life, because the only safe vagina he has in the relationship is his two hands. Yes!,He may need you to service his other needs that are not of a sexual nature. However he is the one who needs to address the problem in the relationship, But you both need to sit down and have a heart to heart dialogue. If he cannot do that, then it's time to walk away,as you can't change him,only he can do that. Love is not being abused, but he needs to hear that from your lips. Follow your Mind,not you your motherly heart, And your Mind will lead you upon the Pathway to Emotional and Physical freedom
And may God be your guide along this pathway of life.
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reader, gemjewel31 +, writes (9 July 2007):
gemjewel31 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Gee thanks guys hearing from all of yous? Made me feel like I had friends who cared. But also with great advice, Your answers made me feel or gave me the confidence I needed to take the next step. I try taking to him and if he is willing to change then all stay, but if he doesnt, than ya! You know the answer? Im going to bail, like jolly up and jamm' thanks Gemjewel31
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reader, eddie  +, writes (8 July 2007):
 You need to sit down and have a heart to heart with this guy. Lay it on the line. If he doesn't care, move on. Do things in the right order so you can at least keep your integrity in tact. End what you've got before you start something else.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (8 July 2007):
 Wow. All I can say is, leave the man, madam.
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reader, TaylorChu +, writes (8 July 2007):
 Leave him. Don't worry about the 6 years spent. When you get with a very good man one year will be worth much more than the 6. With this current guy none of your needs are being met, but I am sure he is getting his needs met physically, mentally and spiritually. Don't waste your time. You two arent married. Invest your heart in someone who cares for you. Not someone who just has you there for when he feels like dealing with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2007): Wow, you have been with this guy for 6 years? What would be worse is if you were with him for 6 years and one day....leave him, you aren't in a relationship, you are in a holding pattern, on the back burner, in reserve, and dutily neglected....who needs that, life is short, and you deserve to be happy....try being single, it will be a great time in your life to pamper and do for yourself where no one else can, and once you are happy with you, you will attract a better quality man to you,....right now you are man repellant, because you hate the place your are in now....you know the answer to your own questions, don't you?
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reader, Isis  +, writes (8 July 2007):
You need to take some time out and think about yourself.
Is this the type of relationship you want. Do you really want to be with someone who takes you for granted this much and who is not making you happy.
Can you talk to him? Sit him down and explain how you feel and what you need from him. If he doesn't listen or you have tried this then ask yourself if you really want to be there in a destructive relationship.
It is scary to leave someone, especially when you have been with them for a long time and when you love them. Sometimes the best thing for yourself and your life is to walk away from the person you love the most. If he really loves you and doesn't want to lose you then this may make him realise he has to change.
Talk to a friend, or find somewhere to go. You need to be happy for your relationship to be happy.
Good luck.
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