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writes: i am quite young and have a steady boyfriend of four months n the other day he told me that he has cheated on me once with my bestfriend me and my friens=d are still friends but im not sure what to do about him
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reader, baadgrlz117 +, writes (2 October 2006):
 I would have dumped him as soon as the words fell out of his mouth. Once a cheater always a cheater..it only makes it worse that it was with your best friend. Believe it or not u will move on to find better things.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2006): If he gets away with it once, he's going to do it again. It's happened to me, don't let it happen to you.
The only thing I respect him for is that he was man enough to tell you, but still.
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reader, stina  +, writes (2 October 2006):
 Hi Anon,
My first thought is that this guy and your friend really don't respect you at all. Have you talked to the both of them about this? What are their reactions? Are they sorry and willing to try and make up for it? How do you feel about this? Are you willing to accept their apologies?
I would seriously ask yourself what about these people makes them deserving of being able to maintain relationships with you. Cheating is one thing, but if your guy cheats on you with your best friend?, that's another story. It takes a lot for people to get over the fact that their partner has cheated (rebuilding trust, learning to forgive, etc.), but you also have to think about other factors. For example, will you be able to hang out with all of them and be comfortable? Or more importantly, will you be able to trust him period? After all, you guys have only been together for four months and he has already cheated.
Honestly if I were you, I would ditch this guy and find someone who respect you. I'm not saying that relationships don't all take work, but you say you're young - there will be plenty of opportunities in your future to find someone who will genuinely care about you and not want to hurt you in any way. I think it would best to look around for someone better than this guy.
Take care.
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