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writes: Alright, I need to get to the bottom of this guy. Im 22, he's 25. He's a friend of my friend, and we hang out on occasion. I know when a guy likes me normally, but for the life of me, I cannot figure this one out. I know guys do that thing where they stare at you, but when you look at them, they look away real quick. Well I'll feel him stare but he does it even when I look at him, so then we have this strange intense eye lock sort of thing, and he will not look away. its as though he's challenging me. I take it as a "challenge" because he's always saying little things that I believe he says to "get under my skin". He'll say things he knows I'll disagree with, almost to get a rise out of me. THe thing is, he has a girlfriend, so it can't be that he likes me, right? what else would he be doing this for? just to be a pain in the ass? the thing is also that when other people aren't around, he talks to me kind of nicely. please if someone knows anything, help! thank you.
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reader, samarawilltrytohelp +, writes (9 February 2006):
A guy that can't keep his eyes off of you? A guy that knows what to say to "get under your skin" so you have to respond to him? Yes, this guy likes you! Since I am an outsider looking in let me expand on this. I am pretty confident in saying that this guy likes your looks, and he likes your brains. When a guy stares at you and doesn't turn away when eye contact is made means that the guy is confident and not insecure. A very good quality to always look in men! How confident depends on the guy, but overall a good quality. If you stop and think about it, how does this guy always know what to say to "get under your skin"? It's no accident. He has paid close attention to you for longer than you have noticed. He says these things to hear you talk and it's possible he thinks your aggrevation with his comment is cute! So take it easy. He's just being a guy who finds you beautiful and intelligent. You mentioned he has a girlfriend, but since you couldn't figure him out it tells me that he is trying to respect that relationship as best he can. So my advice is to just chill and know that he isn't trying to be an ass. He's just being a guy!
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (9 February 2006):
 Hi, well what I was going to say has been said by eddie, good advice and straight to the point!!
I will just add that if it was me I would be a little bothered that when he is alone with you he talks nicely this means maybe that when people are around he is cruel or dismissive maybe, not nice to be denied infront of mates who if you do get with him will then become your mates, so tread with caution and make up your mind if you want him make the move, if not move on!!
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reader, I Dont Lie +, writes (9 February 2006):
 Right, heres my two cents. I dont know him but correct me if Im wrong, this guy has a strong character. He likes to to have things his way, he thinks he knows it all and he likes to prove people wrong if he can that is. If you ask me, I think he does like you and was trying to flirt with you (in a way that he's trying to provoke a response from you). He knows he has a girlfriend but also gets the thrill from the attention hes getting from yourself! Whatever it is, this guys full of himself and you need to stop fueling his ego and pride. And to do that, you shouldnt attempt to stare at him anymore. You'll notice that once you stop this, his boldness of trying to provoke an argument with you will soon mellow down as well, as he'll soon realise that you didnt like him the way he thought you did! Good luck!
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reader, eddie  +, writes (9 February 2006):
 Why do you think that because he has a girlfiend he can't like you too? People cheat all the time. It's wrong but it's nothing new. It sounds like he's trying to get your attention. It also sounds like you don't mind either. That's OK, it's normal.If it bothers you when he stares, don't look back at him. After all, you wouldn't know he was staring if you weren't also looking.
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