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writes:I am in a loving relationship with a guy who I adore and have lived with for 2 years. On a night out about 4 weeks ago, I was dancing with a mutual friend of mine and my boyfriends. Another friend of ours has said he seen us kissing whilst dancing and it's now torturing me as this guy knows my boyfriend and I'm afraid he'll confess to him, I vaguely remember a kiss but also remember pulling away as soon as I realised what happened, I can't tell my boyfriend for complete fear he'll leave. It meant nothing and is completely out of character for me, I have never, ever done anything like this before. Also if I tell him it will cause much un-needed friction as a result of something that meant nothing and was barely a kiss? Anyone have any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2008): Tell your boyfriend the truth but dont let him know that the friend saw it happen as he might think you were guilty and only told him due to being scared that he would find out the truth
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reader, Namatjira +, writes (18 February 2008):
The absolute worst thing that could happen is if your boyfriend finds out from anyone else. You need to tell him but choose your time and make it soon. He may well be upset and it might be difficult for a bit depending on how mature he is and how secure he feels in the relationship. However if you do not tell him and he finds out it will not matter how much you protest, he will not believe you.At the end of the day it is not a terrible thing and from the sound of it was just one of those things.As Laura1318 said, this guy stole a kiss from you and you pulled away.There is another advantage to getting in first with your boyfriend and that is he afterwards finds out from this mutual friend, then he can say, yes I know. She told me. Then that mutual friend will realise that he misread what he saw and your reputation will remain the same.Good luck.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (18 February 2008):
 If your b/f asked you , tell him that friend stole a kiss from you and you were the innocent party.
You were dancing and suddenly his lips landed smack on your lips and you were shocked and quickly withdrew.It is not your fault. LOL!
Your friend may not tell him...then you would be worrying for nothing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2008): Personally, I think that you should tell your boyfriend about it before anyone else does, and even if they don't, a good relationship needs honesty. If you adore him, and if you've been living with him for 2 years, then surely you can talk to each other by now? He will forgive you a lot easier if he knows that you told him straight away - his heart would be in pieces if he found out you lied.. You need to get this off your chest and sorted honey, so go tell him. If he loves you, he'll be able to forgive you. Good luck :]
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (18 February 2008):
 Hi,
Blimey! you hardly comitted the crime of the centry have you?. If I were in your shoes, and I can see your point, I would completely laugh it off. If your boyfriend does find out, which I doubt that he will, just tell him you were drunk and the other guy must have a better memory than you do. If you make it into a big thing then he will think the worst. But really darling you have done nothing wrong. Except drink to much! and well! we have all been there havn't we?.
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