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writes:Hello! I am kind of interested in this guy from work, and looking for signs that he could be interested in me.There are a few things I’ve noticed, I just want an objective opinion on whether they could be signs that he's interested:. When we're in the same room, even if he's doing something else, or isn't near me, he always ends up listening to what I’m saying (I don't feel like I'm loud but maybe I am and worryingly self oblivious!).When we're in a group of people having a conversation, sometimes I feel like he looks at me for approval after he's said something. Or equally if somebody else says something I feel like he looks at me to see my reaction to what they've said. I don't really know how to explain it clearly..Also he fidgets with things when we're talking alone.. And the last one is that sometimes he'll look at me and I’ll look at him and then neither of us will look away for a couple of seconds - I usually look away first because I'm shy. But it's one of those 'is he looking because I’m looking? Who looked first?' situations.And then other days, he hardly looks at me and hardly speaks to me, but pays a lot of attention to another woman who I work with.I'm hoping he does like me, because then I might be a little more forward but I don't want to put myself out there to be rejected.Any help would be much appreciated, thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2010): He's a guy, so there's a 99% chance he won't reject you unless he's gay, married or has another girl lined up or dating him. You have nothing to worry about, especially since he shows interest in you. Just ask him out on a date, and if he says no, there's nothing bad that can happen. He's probably just doesn't have enough nerve to go further with you because of the threat of harassment charges in the workplace, which guys are all terrified of achieving. Most guys, even the youngest ones, know that they can't cross any lines at work, if they like you. They can, but they might get charged for whatever reasons the girl decides to bring him up for. For that reason alone, I would ask him out, if I were you, and then you'll break down that wall between him and yourself. GO FOR IT!!!!!!! I know he'll say yes!!!!! If not, oh well....there's a thousand other guys directly around you who'll gladly go out with you, so don't worry about rejection, it doesn't hurt as bad or long as you think...and it makes you stronger each time!
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reader, roadie42  +, writes (27 March 2010):
 I'd certainly say he sounds interested! Don't worry about him paying attention to other women...it might just mean that you make him nervous because he's attracted to you, and thus, he talks to other women instead.Go for it! Here's the logic - if you put yourself out there, you might get rejected or you might find yourself a new special someone. However, if you don't make a move, nothing's going to happen. So...you're down to a 50% chance of getting together or a 0% chance, if you think of it that way. Rejection hurts, but not as much as watching opportunities go by. Remember, if you never try then you'll never know!!
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