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writes:Me and my boyfreind have been goingout fover over a year now. Recently me and my boyfriend have been spending a lot of time together, and I've loved every minute of it. However a a few weeks ago he said he didn't want to see me as much anymore because we see too much of each other. He said that we will value each other more and it will make our relationship stronger. I understand what he is saying... and I have give it a go but as this time spent apart makes him like me more and miss me, it just makes me dislike him more and more. I just feel rejected. I don't know what to do. Help!! Reply to this Question
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (12 December 2008):
 If you two are spending 24/7 together, then you definitely need time apart. Unless he has given you a reason to think that his interest in you in dwindling or that he has someone else, you should listen to his thoughts. Time away from each other WILL make the times together that much more exciting and special.
If he is just suggesting that you guys have alone time, friend time, family time, that's a great idea. If he is asking to take a break or separation, then he is simply trying to break up with you in a nice way.
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reader, DOG +, writes (12 December 2008):
 Not to burst your bubble but this sounds like a line. I believe people use this line when they want to talk to or see other people without having to feel guilty about it and yet they don't want to lose their partner at the same time.
As you are still you young and there is whole world out there that needs to be explored.
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reader, Miss Clueless +, writes (12 December 2008):
Miss Clueless is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank You for your advice. I 100% trust my boyfriend I don't doubt him for a second. He said he wanted time to be alone so he can be bored and do what he wants... like play on his playstation and things. I didn't really get that because i'm a person who hates being bored or on my own. I feel better knowing that other guys are the same and just want to do guy stuff. Thanks again for your advice!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2008): I have a similar problem. Although me and my boyfriend never spent a lot of time together in the first place. It was always limited. And, we both live 10 minutes walk from each others house. Still, we spend limited but quality time together when we meet him. I used to bother him a lot with how he doesnt like to spend time with me and how it really irritates me. But slowly i realized that its just guys. Guys need their own weird space to sleep more, spend time with their friends , watch time and some good time with their gfs. See, unless you trust him and know what he said is going to improve your relationship, you are not going to be happy about the relationship.
I know its hard to understand because you would guess that your boyfriend should be as excited as you to spend more time with you but guys are just different. You said how spending less time makes him like you more and miss you. Dont you like that? you should have a talk with him and see how that goes. ask him where does he spend the time when not with you. If you are doubting him, thats another thing. But if hes just busy doing his guy things , let it be. You should be glad your bf wants to value you more.
i dont know if that made sense. but let me know how it goes
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