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female
age
41-50,
*hygilly
writes:Everytime i try to explain to my bf my side, my veiws on things he doesn't understand me and we end up rowing and breaking up, this has been going on for over a year now.I will try and explain a little to you -I was in a relationship for 14 years with the father of my kids, He is 10 years older then me also and i was very young when i got with him, he controlled me in every way possible like i wasn't allowed out to pub with friends and he use to drag me back home. I used to have to babysit for him for his kids while he went out clubbing with his friends which was girls also and he would never take part in anything to do with my family so i wouldn't end up goin myself an so on.Anyway my latest bf i have been with for over a year now, at the beginning it was great but as time went on and i started goin out and stuff, he wouldn't come with me and soon as i asked the answer was no so i would kinda stand up to him and go any even though he made me feel like crap but the more i went out or anythin or even with just friends he didn't like it,He said i never explained myself properly, which i have admitted too but i think it's cause of my past why i react like this. Maybe i jump the gun i dont know. He ends up accusing me of all sorts, well i think he does anyway and the more he goes on about the same thing that we are rowing about the more angry i get cause i dont want to end up like that again, i feel like he is trying to control me like my ex did and i react very badly and end up not being able to explain myself but do i have to ?????All i know is i dont wanna end up like that again, am i just a soft touch i dunno am gonna shut up now and see what you think.Thanks for this xoxox
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reader, DONNA85  +, writes (12 September 2007):
i think it sounds like its heading in the same direction and it sounds like u know that too. your not being a softy. my opinion is that u made a mistake last time and u should be smart and learn from it. dont make the same mistake twice u dont deserve to put urself through that
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