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writes:my boyfriend tells me he loves me and knows I am the girl he wants to marry, we have been together for over 2 1/2 yrs but then he tells me he needs time to think about stuff, but yet doesn't want to break up...this has happened more than once, I am confused. He says he loves me but then he says he needs to think about US? I'm not sure what to believe? Whether he Loves me or not? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2007): i agree, communicate how this makes you feel!
i think that it's easier to look at what he says negatively, even though his exact words are how much he loves you!!! either way you get blinded and just look at the negative
he may be too self involved right now, and not aware how this makes you feel
i can relate though, i am the same and always go for the negative, but if it was the other way around, and you put him through this, wouldn't you think he was being insensitive if he pushed you to make a decision?
i'm not saying that you're being insensitive, but men can experience cold feet too.. maybe he wants to marryy just not yet, some things are that simple.
i am in love with an amazing guy, who i would happily spend the rest of my life with, but we both wouldn't consider getting married, because after all, people do change,
maybe that's what he fears too.. that things will change... marriage is a big step, but if he needs time to think, it doesn't mean he doesn't love you
i think if you talk to him and let him know exactly what you're feeling, but without pressuring him, then when you know all the details, you can have better judgement
take care
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reader, YummyMummy  +, writes (13 June 2007):
 You need to tell him how you are feeling and ask him to stop talking in riddles because you dont know where you stand.
Surely if he knows he wants to marry you there cant be anything to think about?
Good luck
xxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2007): Of course your boyfriend loves you and he wants to marry you. Just give him time to think about the situation. If your boyfriend keeps holding up and tells you to wait.... I assume he maybe probably experimenting and seeing other girls just to see which one is right for him. Just give him time to think, and see what he says. You are still young. You have a lot of time to get married and experiment with different men. If he doesn't want to be with you then thats his call. The bright side is there are many fish in the ocean for you to pick. It doesn't have to be just one guy. Goodluck!
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