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writes:Hey guys. First of all I'd like to say thank you for helping me out. Greatly appreciated it. Please be honest and speak your mind. I also like to see the perspectives from any guys who have been in a relationship for more than a year or anyone who can relate to the issue I am having.My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years. I know we both love,trust and care of each other very much. We have been through together a lot for a few months, we got through it. Recently both of us have had major changes in our lives. First, we have moved out of our flat to my parents' so we could save more money for our trips for 3 months which is quite soon and my bf is now self employed. He has been telling me how nervous and scared he is about the situations we are in. I can understand that he might feel a little bit uncomfortable invading my parents' space and the fact that he has not making any money for the trips have made him feel useless. I try to comfort him but does not always work. he gets worked up when money issue is on his mind.we had a fight the other week. It started off from there. We both were truly happy but after that ONE fight things had changed. My boyfriend had told me how he is scared, unsure and confused of everything including our relationship,ME and especially of himself. He does not know what to do and feels lost. He needs some space and time to think thoroughly about what he really wants. I cried because I did not see that coming. I thought we were going to break up.I asked him if there is anything I can do, he said we can make it work. He keeps saying all he needs is time and space to just think and be by himself. It scares me as I have never seen this side of his personality before. We had fights in the past but we made up straight away.I must say sometimes he would look at me differently now after that fight. But some other times I feel the affection. He always says he loves me and hopes that I am happy and smiling because he sees and understands what I am going through as well! He kisses my hand,forehead and lips in public like he usually does. Plus we are having more sessions of steamy hot sex than usual and it's always superb! What is going on? I AM SO CONFUSED and PARANOID!!What should I do? What does it really mean about what he said? I think I know but then again I'm not sure because he keeps saying he loves me and doing everything like he normally would. The fact that he is unsure sets me off to tears because I love him so much :( I believe we can make it work but I do not want to push it too far or invade his space. We live together at my parents', so what do I do? How do I give him space? I believe I feel the way that I do now is because there is no security in the situation that I'm in. That is why I am so scared, confused and paranoid. Is it normal?PLEASE HELP!
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