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*irefighter's Wife 09
writes:I am just starting my 6th month of pregnancy and my libido is through the roof! I also have been having severe migraines and nausea. Even though I want to have sex my husband doesn't want to make me sicker or hurt me. I know he "relieves" himself sometimes when he wakes up when I'm still asleep. He knows that due to a past relationship where my bf would masturbate to porn magazines and videos and hide it from me and lie about it, that it hurts me. He says he doesn't do it to hurt me it's just he has the need and just does it since he doesn't want to bother me and risk rejection. Why do men do that? I have been able to have sex more the past week but I still wonder if he is going to do it.
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reader, Firefighter's Wife 09 +, writes (30 January 2009):
Firefighter's Wife 09 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionLol thank you honeypie sex has helped with my migraines as much as the medicine!
He really is a wonderful man and he is the sexyist man alive!
I think my biggest problem is that it was done to me in the past to hurt me, so now its difficult for me to take it for what it is now and not what it used to be!
I just need a therapist I guess!lol
Thank you all for your help! I do feel better about it!
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (30 January 2009):
 Both Ice and Gina said it so well. He's not jerking off because he doesn't want you. He is jerking off because he wants sex,but don't want to hurt or bother you. That is kinda nice of him :)
There are like Gina said plenty of things you can do for him and HE can do for you that will get you both off and not make him worry that he is hurting your or the baby.
Most pregnancy books have a chapter about sex during pregnancy, if you have one of those books find that chapter and show it too him.
Some men and even some women don't like sex during pregnancy others love it. Talk to him about it. Have open communications about that and everything else. Respect that he is concerned about you and the baby, but make sure he knows you still find him hot & sexy. Because OBVIOUSLY he finds you sexy too :)
Oh and.... Sex is an AWESOME stress reliever!
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reader, Firefighter's Wife 09 +, writes (30 January 2009):
Firefighter's Wife 09 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you Gina! I am trying hard to get going and get him in the mood. He hasn't done it this week so maybe I'm making him 'happy'! Lol thanks again!
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