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writes:I've been with a guy for three years he got married before we got serious we have a child together; we used to live together at the moment we're not. he said he love his wife for what she done for him but his heart is with me. should I wait for him until he sort his life out please help I don't know what to do Reply to this Question
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reader, nologo  +, writes (10 July 2007):
 Expectations that you have are a bit unclear.
You say here that you "have a child together".
This means there is some kind of connection between you two.
As to emotional cheating on his wife it has to be proven yet.
"wait for him until he sort his life out" - it may take years.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2007): If he really got serious with you and if his heart was really with you then he would be with you, not his wife.
That is a fact, anything else are just a play on words.
Men who cheat on their wife's usually have it so that different needs are met by each women. Don't think that things will change, because it is unlikely they will.
What he gets from his wife is a specific kind of love and a security of marriage that you, as his mistress, probably won't be able to satisfy.
Like Daniel says, judge people on their actions and don't let words blur the reality of any situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2007): You can only delude yourself that there are chances, if the man is in another relationship and states he loves his partner, you fight over a lost case. Give yourself the chance to be happy and don't remain blocked in an futile relation. He's already settled and has no reasons of leaving his wife because he loves her, if he cared for you he would have released you of hopes before we did, the rest is only disillusion.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (10 July 2007):
 I think you should move on. Don't look at his words, but at his actions: he married someone else though you were living with him and had a child by him.
Don't wait for him; sort your own life out. Don't include him if not as father of your baby.
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