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writes:My BF of over 2 years and I have had a tumultuous relationship but until recently, I believed we both loved each other. I'm somewhat of a hopeless romantic, believing love will conquer all. He told me last week he has met another girl and is very happy, after telling ME just the day before he is in love with ME. How can this be? And now, he won't even talk to me. Can someone who claims to love me possibly be if he won't even communicate with me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2010): If he has stuck by you for 2 years of turbulence then it's peculiar that he could be happy with another woman in a short period of time. His stories not adding up especially since he told you he loved you just the day before. It seems like he's feeling insecure with the relationship and might be trying to get out before he gets hurt. Were you hinting at a separating before he jumped ship? It would be a good idea if you ask him why he really left. I think there's morer to his decision to leave spontaneously is more than meets the eye based on the information you've supplied. Peculiar behavior? Have a serious sit down with him and let him and make him feel comfortable. Don't make accusations because you don't want to cause any friction which will cause him to shut down. Let him know you're concerned about his wants and needs just as much as you are about yours. It's hard to give more advice with the little history you've given. Best success.
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reader, the_phoenic  +, writes (3 December 2010):
ask him directly and confront him
because people take months if not years to move over someone they'd loved
so i believe there are one of two possiblities
1-) there is something in his life that might not tone with your life and because he loves and cares for you he doesnt want to put you into trouble by interfering with this issue by any mean
2-) your instant reaction towards him when he told you that he loved you werent so welcoming or disorienting witch made him withdrow in this strange way
and so i believe confronting is the best solution in this case and if you love him and he is fine
dont leave him as nothing make's us humans happy as loving people who love us
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2010): ~UNCONDITIONAL LOVE~
YES~It is possible.
I am in love with someone who is not in love with me. She recently returned to me wanting fiendship only. I agreed, and while I agreed and remain her friend my heart will not allow me to respect and honor her demand that I refrain from treasuring her on a deeper level than a platonic friend, as I I can't and do not know how to not verbalize my love, devotion, and loyalty to her...I LOVE HER UNCONDITIONALLY...I need to insure her happiness and by staying in her life, I will unintentionally take from it by uncontollably expressing my love for her to her...SO...I recntly LIED to her and told her that I have moved on and am love with another woman and that this woman and I are planning to move together within the next year.
I am shattered...While the other woman and myself are Dear Friends...and while I love my dear friend, I am not in love with her and have no intention of welcoming a romantically intimate relationship with her.
I am heart-broken...and...in my Ex's head she thinks I have freed her and moved on, I REMAIN IN LOVE WITH HER AND KNOW I WILL NEVER LOVE THIS WAY AGAIN.
I pray every night that her precious two hearts and herself are healthy, happy, and safe.
~DEAR SOUL~
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2010): http://www.dearcupid.org/question/women-actions-speak-louder-than-words.html
"Can someone who claims to love me possibly be if he won't even communicate with me?" No
Neither can a man who gets with another woman.
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