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writes: i'm in a bit of a confusin situation atmme and my boyfriend of 3 years have broken up and now i dunno wat to do, he said he doesnt love me anymore but i don't believ him, he hasn't taken me off his profile or anythingand he makes it out to his bestfriends lyk he still does, and he still comes to me when he needs to tell me somethin or wen his sad, we've broken up only for a week but it's been so confusin, he has said to me "u meant everythin to me and us bein together meant the world, u can quesiton our love all u want but i kno wat it meant, and thats all that matters to me right now really"and yeh i dunno, den we stopped talkn n dat nite he had a break down n jus apologized for doin dis to me and that he hates himself n he jus wants to be happy agen n his lyk please tell me wat to do, please help me i can't stop crying. (his veryyy veryy secretive so i dunno how he managed to tell me dat) but we didn't talk till the mornin coz i was sleepin wen he said that. n i said dat im here for him n that it'll all be ok bla blaa.. den i asked him wat was wrong n if he'd had sorted it out n he goes deres nothin to sort out, and i said wat were u upset bout den? n he said everythings fucked, nothings goin my way and i said u've moved on, u hav a place to say (his gettin kick outta home) and u hav a new job, wats the matter? and he goes nvm gotta go. and we haven't spoken since i need to get sum of my stuff from his house but i can't because i want him to miss me and if he sees me then he wont. i dunno, i want him backplease tell me wat i should do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2008): I completely understand where it is that ur coming from, sweetie. I'm going thru somethin so similar...my sweetheart of almost 2 years keeps goin' on and on about how everythings completely fcuked up all the time. It's so frustratin' to know that my love is goin thru shit that I can barely understand..cuz anytime i ask, his response is ALWAYS, "It doesn't matter". Men!! He hurts me so much wit the things he says in anger, but supposedly in his mind, whatever he says during his angry moods isn't allowed to be used against him..ever! But, of course, if i dare to say anything wrong or mean when I'm upset, it must mean that i don't really love him.
I'm at my wit's end, it seems like he's manipulating everything about me. I've been such a good girl to him, sweet, faithful, i cook, I work, I have no children and no excess baggage and damn, am i sexy too. But do you think he even recognizes all the things i do, how i support him in whatever he does. Nope. When i ask for attention, just him and me time, with no computers or tv or his video games, just us...he acts like I'm asking for blood. He goes on and on about how he just wants to be left alone and how we always spend time together so what am I talkin about?
He says he's tired of all the bullshit, of goin around in circles and how nothing he ever says matters. How can that possible be when his fuckin happiness is essential to my own?? I KNOW when my boo is feelin down and out and I work my ass off to cheer him up. I try to get him to communicate with me so we can work whatever he's feeling upset about out. Shee-it, I minus well shut the fuck up and never say another word to him about his feelings cuz he just refuses to open up. I'm at such a loss...it hurts so much. Plus, he's older than me. I'm 24 and he's 38. We're of the same mentality which was the initial attraction cuz I'm not your average young-minded female. I'm
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2008): Hi Hunny
Id wait this out abit hun, He sound confused and depressed about something, This doesnt sound as if he doesnt care for you anymore, It sound more like there is some deep rooted problem he isnt actually saying...Depression can hit us at anytime love and if he is feeling this way he may think everything is lost and he cant find away out hunny...The fact that he said he just wants to be happy again tells me hunny there is something here not quite right and he may not be saying it all as he doesnt no how to, if you need a chat hunny message me dont sit there and cry alone sweetheart..YOU TAKE CARE OF YOU SWEETPEA WITH LOADS OF LOVE AND SQUISHY HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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