A
female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:Thank you for previous replies to my posts http://www.dearcupid.org/question/follow-up-on-emigrating-to-oz-while-my.html and wanted to update that today my boyfriend basically gave me an ultimatum that it was not acceptable for me to come and go out his life (i.e. go back to the UK to visit my Mum intermittently including when she has a major operation) and that I was pissing off people that love me (meaning him). He said I was 'mental' and when I asked him for an apology he said "I'm sorry I met you". I am just beside myself right now. I have invested years in this relationship and I am not at the age I can throw my life away. I have put money, time and emotion into him and Oz even changing or turning down opportunities in the UK which I cannot now get back. I don't know, under the circumstances how I can get over this? I feel that if he contacts me I will be so low and desperate I will let the whole thing continue. I feel so upset I can barely function I have so few friends to speak to and my parents obviously have their own concerns. Please help I don't know how to get through this.
View related questions:
money Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2009): Honey, I read the advice given to your previous post, why don't you take it and end this relationship. I am sorry to hear that your mother is ill and of course you want to be there for her major operation, you probably would never forgive yourself if you didn't.
Your boyfriend is incredibly cruel and selfish and he lives in a different country and expects you to uproot yourself permanently to where he is. Well for one the timing is not right and he is angry at your circumstances, but he is only thinking of himself.
He will make a terrible husband and partner. You are going to feel immediately better if you just decide that you don't need him bringing you down any more. You can find a job back home, you have to make some opportunities for yourself.
I know you have invested a lot into this relationship and it is a huge disappointment, but what would be worse is if you put all that time in plus one day more! Time is a wasting and you don't need his "shit" in your life.
You deserve better. Go home to your family.
A
female
reader, Jayney Y  +, writes (7 October 2009):
 This is the cricket guy right? So it's OK for him to devote his life to cricket and expect you to follow his career overseas, but you're not allowed to lead any sort of life that doesn't include him? What's so wrong with going home to visit your family? I know where I'd be telling him to stick that cricket ball.
...............................
|
