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anonymous
writes:My boyfriend is training for a new career [4yr qualification] and it means he is very busy. I accept this and am being very understanding. But the problem is that he's never there when I need him cos he puts the qualification before me now. I don't know what to do/think. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2010): If you intend to have a future together then know this qualification is for both of you. He will be putting 100% into this study and you should encourage him to do so, don't split his mind. You could offer to help him in some way, test his knowledge, help type his paper work or by just letting him do what he needs to do. The future is important. My boyfriend felt a little bit the same when i was in full time study and i felt torn, he then offered to help me in so many different ways, my work became a breeze and fun and he learnt new things with me. When i finally graduated i was so proud of him because it was for US not just me, he was the one to say pick the books up you have that exam and he would test me or he would just leave me to study on my own.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (26 September 2010):
 He needs to put this before you at the minute cause am sure its something he really wants his and therefore he is concentrating on his career. Im sure this is difficult for you at the minute, explain to him that you want to support him but maybe ask him to concentrate a little more on your relationship as you are feeling neglected.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2010): If you care at all just leave him alone, let him get the qualification if it's what makes him happy. You say you're being very understanding but you probably aren't, being understanding takes more effort than just saying it.
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