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writes:Me and a guy friend used to be "F buddies" a while back, now he has a girlfriend so obviously that's not the case anymore. Now, during the past few months when we've been chatting online he has been maybe a bit too friendly e.g. We were saying something the other day about him feeling tired after being to the gym and he said something like "i need a massage ;)" and another time i was saying i was freezing cold cos of the weather and he said "need a cuddle?". Maybe i'm making a big issue out of nothing i don't know. Today he said "guess who's home at the weekend?" and asked if i fancied a drink. My question is: should i meet up with him or should i make an excuse and not go? He also asked if i had work the next day.
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reader, WhateverMovesThee +, writes (26 September 2010):
 I don't think so. "I need a massage ;)" is a direct flirt and asking about having work the next seems suspicious. Sounds to me like he wants the f-buddy days back though he already has a girlfriend. Don't go for it. If you feel like you want to catch up anyway, have lunch but don't put yourself in a situation where its night and you're both drunk and there's chemistry brewing. Don't help him be unfaithful cause I really think thats on his mind. It's one thing to be two single, consenting adults having fun and another to betray an innocent girl. You hold control of this situation, tread carefully and do what you feel is best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2010): It sounds like he's not asking you to meet up for an innocent little get-together between old friends.
It's not up to you to ensure that he's faithful to his girlfriend all the time, but you can decide if you want to be the "other woman."
This will be a personal, ethical choice for you.
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