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female
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36-40,
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writes:I have been with my husband for 5 years and married 2. We have two children. We are having a problem in our marriage. We have been fighting for 3 years. We have some major cracks in our marriage. From money, to his parents, to the house we live in, even sex. Honestly I feel like he doesn't really care about me anymore. He seems only interested in his computer games and his compost pile. He had and emotional relationship with a girl over his game.. and he told me he had the nerve to tell me she's nicer to him. I miss being kissed so much. I don't love him anymore and i know we are only together for our kids, so is it alright to be with another person? phsyically i mean
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (7 December 2010):
Do you understand what will happen if you have an affair, and it comes out?
1 - There is a high chance your children will discover it one day, and you can be sure they won't forgive you for it.
2 - All that is wrong in your marriage will be blamed on you. Your husband will get no blame, and nearly all the support.
3 - That will be the end of your reputation. People just won't trust you.
So, no affair! Innocent people will get hurt, and it will be the end of your reputation.
As for the marriage, you say you don't love your husband anymore. If that's truly the case, then get a divorce. If not, then explain to your husband that you want to work at your marriage. Either he will or won't agree.
Just don't have an affair - you'll ruin your own life more than anything.
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reader, loveistheanswer +, writes (6 December 2010):
 No, its not ok! A marriage is a commitment you continuously work on and only abandon as a last resort! People expect their relationships to work without putting any work into them. I keep saying a relationship is like a car it needs constant maintenance. What a negative, give-up kind of attitude to have towards the one you pledge to love for better or for worse. Start paying more attention to him in little ways for a week or so, and then tell him that you want the same from him. And then keep it up. If two people love each other then they need to act like it and not take each other for granted. If he says she's nicer to him than you the correct reaction is not to sleep with someone else, but to ask him how you could make him feel more special. And the same goes for him too. You need to talk to him tell him how you feel.
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