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writes:SO boyfriend broke up with me we have been togethe for 3 years, i am going to throw it out there bc i have been askign my friends for advise i need a strangers help. thing is that i got pretty annoying and desperate bc i realized i can lose him! i initially got with him bc he was a safe bet, i thougth he would never hurt me but boyy was i wrong. he broke up with me recently after our families both had dinner, i thoguht it was all offiicial and i was supposed to go to his house so we can have a mini engagemtnt party but i noticed a behavior in him where he was serious and excited but at the same time carless and couldnt be bothered so recnetly he told me lets take a week off of not talking and i didnt wanan do it but i did i knew it would ruin us, we always talk! now on monday he told me its over but called and says i lov u and stuff, he isnt the type ot cheat or lie, so thats one of the main reasons i am even with him, girls would leave him if they saw how HAIRY HE IS!!! lol, If truth be told i have my mistakes in the relationship too but i take blame and was working on it but he doesnt even commend me for it, like if i txt him hey baby or hey sweety i hope u have a gr8 day he wont even reply. so today after 6 days he tells me he doesnt know where we will end up but he loves me alot. i know he cant let me go, i guess we both cant let each other go bc we are a great catch to one anther except when i said it to him he said "i dotn know where we will end up"...but makes it clear that we are not together, i keep asking if im his girl and shit but he doesnt answer or he says im tired of ur questions! im sure if he ever sees i moved on hell realize his error but i guess im just giving him his space, he told me he needs time apart, i just hope it doesnt ruin us!! i need some optimism!
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reader, LittleAlfie +, writes (16 August 2010):
 Oh, and there's nothing wrong with a guy with body hair. If you don't appreciate it, there are girls out there who do.
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reader, Practical  +, writes (16 August 2010):
 u have to accept it !! accept whatever happens .. he's actually fed up with the relationship.. so I'd disappear from his life if I were u .. at least until he tries to contact you .. u should know that this is not right .. how we attach ourselves to people !! we shouldn't "attach" our lives to people or possessions .. please, sit down and think .. there's more in life than this man .. there's other things and other interests that would make u really love yourself .. Love yourself instead of expecting someone else to love u .. feel sad that u reached the point where a fellow human being can make u feel this low .. he's just a man .. I am saying this because I'm almost in your shoes.. and the only time I felt good about myself is when I decided I'll fall in love with myself again !! instead of wanting my man to be in love with me .. believe me .. sometimes when u take steps to the back u are really heading forward .. !!
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reader, LittleAlfie +, writes (16 August 2010):
Space is probably your best bet here. And I mean absolute space. Texts, emails, phonecalls, they should all be put on the backburner. Simply because you're risking nagging him away. I know it sounds harsh but it's the way men think. My simple suggestion is to go out with your girlfriends and remind yourself of who YOU are as am individual. Not in a relationship and not as a single girl on the prowl. Rather use this time to take stock in the things you love about you. See movies, try new foods, go on mini adventures around your city. Explore. All this can help pass the time while you wait. Eventually he'll contact you, but remember to keep it short and kind of shallow for a bit. Wait for him to bring up relationship talk. If you still wanna be with him by then, then ease back into it with dates that involve
Activity. Go on walks, picnics. Little things. Avoid extremely romantic dinners and absolutely hold out on sex. If you find after your time apart you don't want to be with him, then it'll be much easier to move on.
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