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writes:The man I married is not who I thought he was since he is now in the states. We have had our ups and downs and I felt just trying to get use to each other since being apart for so long, but after 9 months of being in the states when he and I have a dispute he will go to strangers who he befriends and tell them bad things about me, but in the same breath tell them how much he loves me, weather it be our banker or just people who he befriends.The last episode was when one of the friends who is female he just befriended sent him an email and some how got sent to me and it mention about him finding ways of getting his citizenship behind my back. Can this be true he can't do that can he and now I see he married me and put me through all these lies and hell just to come to the states, but he has only been here for about 9-10 months. If I divorce him will he be sent back to his country or will he be able to stay and I have to take care of him because I completed the Affidavit of support. I am so hurt and now I want to get out of this before to late.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2011): go to www.visajourney.com you will get alot of advise there without the fees of a lawyer.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (1 March 2011):
 Oh I'd dump him and divorce him in a heartbeat..
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reader, dirtball +, writes (1 March 2011):
 I suggest you talk to a lawyer about your options. He definitely sounds like he's using you.
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reader, TEM +, writes (1 March 2011):
 Oh my, this is awful. You must be hurt, angry, and God knows what else. Right now your feelings are raw and it must be hard for you to think straight. Even so, it looks like you need to take action.
You must contact a lawyer so that you are taking action on the correct information. If this man has used you to get citizenship then you need to think of yourself first. No matter what you are feeling, protecting yourself must be your first priority.
From what you have posted here, it does look like he has used you. He tells you he loves you, but tells others differently. I would interpret that as a lie, hurtful as it is. If he has intentionally done this to you, you owe him nothing, and the sooner you are rid of him the better. I am very sorry this happened to you.
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