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writes:We have been going out for years, he moved away for a job, he told me to do what I need relationship wise regardless of what he does. We still meet up every couple weeks. We still have great sex, fun, very compatible. I know he's trying or is going out with other women. I took his advice and started moving on, I have been dating someone. Now when he does not hear from me for a few days, he calls me questioning me, where have I been, where am I now, last night etc.I don't ask him anything. I don't give him details about what I do. It is what it is now. He made it clear he won't commit. So how should I respond to him? What is he thinking? Thanks!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your answers...just trying to make sense and move on...Thanks!!!
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (17 May 2009):
He has massive double standards.
There are a lot of guys out there who think they are too cool for just one women.
So his idea is that he goes round have sex with lots of women, and you sit at home and have pillow fights with your friends and sit in your pants waiting for him to come round.
The fact that you are getting more dates than him is just not how it is supposed to go.
When he calls up and moans then just tell him to grow up.
Tell him that he has made it clear he is not going to commit so if he thinks you are going to hang around and waste your time pining for him then he must be:
a) stupid
b) arrogant
Tell him that if he wants to be your boyfriend and have a proper relationship then he should let you know... But to be honest the fact he's acting like a spoiled child doesn't exactly make him incredibly desirable.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Mrs Mac +, writes (17 May 2009):
 To me it sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it I'm afraid. He doesn't want to fully commit to you but he doesn't want anybody else to either.
It sounds like you need to have a chat together and ask him what it is that he expects from you. It seems that both of your aren't completley happy with the situation and it seems that you either need to make the decission to be together or make the break and give each other the time and space to come to terms with that.
Hope this helps but ensure that the decission that you make is the best one for you and not what will make him happy.
Mrs Mac
x x
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