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writes:Hey everyoneI'll say sorry for the length now but I really really need someones helpI have the most amazing boyfriend, He understands me, makes me laugh, and truely cares about me. And I love him more then air more then anyone in the world. The only problem with our Realtionship is that it's over internet and he lives in a completly diffrent country then me. (Before you say anything about "how could you be in love when you have never met him in person?" please don't ask that ok. thats not what I need to know and I know what love is and I have it with him) but anywsys I'm 16 and I'm pretty good looking (not trying to make myself seem conceeded I've been told this by people) and there are guys here that wanna date me and I wanna date themI've been with my boyfriend almost a month, but we've pretty much been boyfriend/girlfriend for months before now but made it offical not too long ago, and I should have thought of this before but I like guys here too..... not as much as him but I still like them.I see all these girls with their boyfriends at school, kissing them and holding their hand and being all cute, and I want that, I want to have a realtionship I can tocuh if you know what I mean by thatI wanna stay with him but I want a good realtionshipwith someone here now too.I don't wanna look back at highschool and say I should have dated more I should have done all those things that every other person did, especially if this realtionship I have now doesn't last forever,...but I LOVE him I need him more then air, and he loves me too, he stay up late so he can talk to me because of time diffrence and makes me feel like the most important girl in the world, but I can't kiss him or anything and I've never been kissed before or had a real boyfriend like that...but I don't wanna break his heart.because I could never live with myslef if I did that.... I don't know what to do....I've thought of maybe telling him, we will just continue to be friends until you can fly here and be with me in person, in two years when we are 18 we can do whatever we want,... but I don't want him to feel like he's my backup or find somebody else, but I wanna date now. does anyone have any advice for me ???sorry for the length
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2009): im in the EXACT same boat as u!
i love someone i met on the internet aswell but tbh im only 14 and hes nearly 16 but its still love and i sometimes think whats the point i wont be able to meet him and be with him for 4 years but if hes truly what u want u will wait for him it may seem like a lifetime but if u love him like you say you do you'll wait and wont even think about other guys and i feel the same about high school experiences aswell and feeling left out because evryone else has a boyfriend and u dont but u can be the one and smile because your relationship will probably last a lot longer than high school relationships, i know im only 14 and younger than u but i know how u feel. i hope u make the right choice! hope this helps! xx
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reader, LittleHelper16 +, writes (21 November 2008):
LittleHelper16 is verified as being by the original poster of the question would it be bad to tell him I wanna date other people but when we are both 18 and can be with each other in person we will try again. and tell him I truely love him more then anyone and want to be with him someday but for now I want the normal highschool experience and I think he should do the same until we met. but still talk as much as we do and not change that at all...? does that sound good??
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (20 November 2008):
 Nobody has a roadmap that will show him/her what to do in life. You are free to go one way or the other, and, when you do choose something, you also go for all the things that come with it. Of course you can make mistakes, and most of us do, and most of us learn from them but sometimes wish we had never made them.
Long distance relationships don't have the rewards that "very short distance" ones have. I wish I could say otherwise, but, if you want your current boyfriend, then you can't have the others. And if you have another, then you can't have him. It would be so even if you lived in the same city.
I don't think I would do well to tell you what to do. I can only tell you to choose, and then accept whatever comes with your choice. If you make a mistake, grin, bear it, and learn from it. We all do (at least we all grin and bear them thing).
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reader, Johnny Bananas +, writes (20 November 2008):
If you feel that he is the one that strongly then you shouldn't even think about dating other guys. If you two are indeed an offical item then it would be cheating if you or him went out. Talk to him. That's the most important thing: COMMUNICATION. Yes, you may regret later whether you decide to or not to date other guys. Again, talk to him and see what his thoughts are. Best of luck!
-J
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reader, simplybecause  +, writes (20 November 2008):
 When I was 15 I fell completely inlove with someone online. I lived for talking to him on the computer. But I felt the same way you did. The exact same way. And cyber boyfriends can offer you things for lack of a better word "real" boyfriends can't. But its also vise versa. Your less apt to fight with your cyber love thne you are your real one... But Having someone there when your crying, when your happy, prom graduation etc... you want boyfrind from high school you are sooooo right when you said you dont want to look back and feel like you missed out. Having a boyfriend is a very very very memorabile part of highschool.
Now this boy you talk to on the internet... why can't you just talk to him about it? I'm sure he feels the same?
Give that a try, i hope i gave you some advice.'
xo
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2008): My girl is in the same boat as you, we both came to a conclusion that we both know what we want,(which is each other) and we will wait it out, but for the meantime we we can still date "other people" and do other things etc, do you know what I mean? I know it's hard but it's the reality and choice you have to make, be realistic. Unless you BOTH want to commit, then you have to trust each other and believe in each other, otherwise all hope dies and the relationship will fall apart. Good luck with your journey! God Bless.
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