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writes:i feel extremely angry towards my bf. my friends invited me on a holiday with them to malia a few months ago, and i had to turn it down because he said he would finish with me if i went. last week he went missing for 5 days, automatically i thought that he had gone abroad with his friends alothough he told me he was going up north to visit his family. when he came bk he continued to lie to me until i finally wore him down n got him to admit it, not to mention he was tanned which made it so obvious.i didnt hear anything from him whilst he was away, which made me extremely depressed, i was going out of my mind. wot can i do to get bk at him. i dont want to leave him, i just want him to know that ill do wot i wish from now on without consulting him. and that we are ever going to be as close as we were. hes apologised n said he feels so guilty for doing it. but its not enough. i want him to realise that he wud be the one missing out if we broke up not me.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (1 June 2008):
Trying to get revenge is not a healthy way to deal with this. It'll never end if you start it.
Why not just tell him that if he ever tries to threaten you with breaking up because he doesn't want you to go on holiday or whatever, then you won't pick him.
But the thing is you have to mean it.
This guy sounds like an arsehole for what he did and I'd be straight out of that relationship, if I were you. You just have to wait until he tries to control you or lie to you again and then walk out.
The best way to make him realise he'd be worse off without you is to leave and let him find out.
Good Luck!! xx
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