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writes:The situation is this,the man i've been with for awhile now just disappeared on me. it's been a month since i've seen him and when i called him to see what the problem was why i haven't seen him in awhile all he could say was that he had been busy,things weren't going well for him and that i would see him soon. could there be a very good possibility of him playing me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2008): I hate to sound harsh but Yes!! Ok you haven't seen him for a month but he could of called, text to let you know what was going on because if he liked you that much he would be worried that if he left it for a month you could find someone else! Guys are no different to girls. Would you have ignored him for a month? No as you like him and want to see him. If a guy likes you he will want to see you and make an effort with you. He sounds like he is playing you, but just keeping you hanging on for when is convenient for him. Sounds like he is having things all his own way. Even having to ask means you suspect he is. Trust your own Instinct as it is nearly always right. If i was you I would just ignore him, then he will either realise what he has lost and make a major effort to get you back, or he won't. Please don't waste your time, you don't wanna waste your time with this guy and be missing opportunities with nice guys out there who will treat you with respect.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (18 February 2008):
 Pick up those left over pieces and rebuild your life again.There is no point loving a dog that bite your hands.
Let him go.He is only using you as a door mat
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2008): I am sure you will hear from him again as you expect nothing from him.....you agreed to a FWB arrangement which is a guy's wet dream, it is always great for a man to have no strings sex.....it is not such a good deal from the woman's standpoint, we are wired differently than men....a man can have sex with you with no emotional attachment what so ever, and toss you like so much used kleenex....it ain't no big thang....but to you the love hormones kick in and you are emotionally bonded, feeling this way you feel that back from him as well when he did not promise you anything but a lay.....if you can behave like a man, then he expects you to have the emotional resilience of a man, if you don't, get rid of this guy who is using you and find a real man.
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reader, babygirl63 +, writes (17 February 2008):
babygirl63 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo update this situation. I saw him recntly and agreed to continue seeing him knowing he didn't want a commited relationship that all he wanted was FWB thing. The following weekend I called his house to see what was up and a another women answered the phone. I was devastated and proceede to leave a trail of very hateful messages to him. I soon regretted saying the things I said and did say I was sorry. I haven't heard anything from him since it's been a week and don't even know if I ever will after what I said even though I did say I was sorry. Does anybody feel I will hear from or do I just move on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2008): How is he playing you exactly? He hasn't made an effort to contact you in a month...I would say that he is no longer interested in anything romantic with you and he is letting you down easy...
No one is busy for a month unless they are the President, and if things are going bad for him and you have a strong foundation of friendship, then any friend would tell you what is going on and be honest and up front.
He may be in a relationship, he may have some serious problems he does not want you to know about, but he sounds emotionally unavailable to me, "I'll see you soon" is really about as vague as I will see you when the moon turns to green cheese.
I think you need to just forget him and be busy with your own life, be happy and you will attract a better man than this one, for sure!
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reader, KellyP  +, writes (25 January 2008):
 Well if hes going to some bad times he may need you but he's not able to ask you so why don't you just offer him your help for anything and on the other hand you could also ask him downright if you have any reason to worry about your realationship and then don't listen to his answer because it may not be the good one because then you have to ask if somethings were going on that i should be worried about would you tell me? now just wait and you'll have your answer just a moment of hesitation and you'll know the truth this may sound cheasy but trust me it works all the time...when you wanna know if someone's playing you so good luck with that luv xxx
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reader, Artistry +, writes (25 January 2008):
 Hi, A relationship is built upon the willingness of two people wanting to be together. There cannot be any forcing of the issue, as someone said somewhere, love just is. Your guy seems to have some issues he is dealing with. Give him the time to work them out, if he is serious about being with you, he will be back on his own. If he is not, then best to move on. Good luck.
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (25 January 2008):
You could go up there to check on him or you could just play the waiting game. At this moment , you cannot be certain.
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