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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Please can someone give me some advice?There's an amazing guy at work who I have a huge crush on. There was some intense chemistry between us when we first met (just polite chat) and the second time we met he blushed. After that, I think the attraction was mutual although nothing was ever discussed...just lots of smiles, chemistry and a little innuendo.However, I had to move jobs (it was a temporary placement) and we had quite an awkward goodbye. He looked pale and uncomfortable and he even shook my hand! I felt terrible.Since then, he emailed a big group of us asking whether anyone would like to help him with a project. I replied and said I would but that was 2 weeks ago and he still hasn't replied.I'm back at my old workplace and we've almost bumped into each other 3 times. Each time he either looks pale or flushed and hasn't made proper eye contact with me so we haven't said hello.So...Is he acting weird because he fancies me?Is it because of our awkward goodbye - maybe he thinks I'm weird!?I'm certain he is avoiding me but cant work out whether it is because he likes me too much or thinks I'm weird!I am 99% sure he felt attracted to me too but I'm not sure if he's single. I get the impression that he hasn't had many different partners, he's very clever and a little geeky. He's also very busy (both with his job and extracurricular activities).Dare I hope that he likes me too and is just a little overwhelmed by our insane sexual chemistry!?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2011): I know it's tempting to think it's mutual when you feel so strongly but sadly it's only sometimes the case. My feeling is if he felt what you did he would have done something by now. You made the first move and he didn't respond or follow up, even to be polite..a definite signal of not wanting to communicate. It's possible he may be interested sometime down the road but it's not something to wait around for or think about and it won't happen if he feels you are after him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2011): My advice is to not think about him and focus on yourself and what you need. Get the attention of another man and enjoy it. In due time you will see. Do not agonize about him or what his feelings are, trust me that gets you nowhere fast. If a man is interested, he certainly makes it known, it's not a big mystery. So get yourself some focus on you and have some fun.
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