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writes:Hey guys. Here is my problem. I am in a wonderful relationship with a great guy. We have been together a few months and we are both madly in love with each other. We have decided to move our relationship on and sleep together. We have both had sexual partners in the past. The problem is when he tried to enter me it was really painful as he is a lot bigger than anyone ive had before. He felt really bad that he was hurting me. What do we do?Please helpxxx Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2009): omggg .. well .. that's a big prob !! idnno :S:S
it's a thing that u cn't change .. maybe u can tell me to try to don;t hurt u
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reader, Kenneth  +, writes (24 July 2009):
You both need lots of lubrication. Apply it on his penis and your vagina at the same time time. Enjoy it! A lot of women are looking for big ones like your bf.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (24 July 2009):
 There isnt a lot you can do I'm afraid! I guess you just need to be very turned on the next time you try, and maybe even use lubrication. Aside from that, it is just something you will get used to!
I had one boyfriend that was much bigger than the rest and for about 2 weeks of trying, we still couldnt have sex without it hurting me too much! But because we kept on trying, eventually it hurt less! I guess you just 'expand' so to speak (sorry for the nasty mental image there!). Just be prepared for it to hurt for a while, and it will hurt for a few days after too. You just need to let yourself heal for those few days after and try again!
The pain that you feel whilst you are having sex normally subsides after a few minutes, just grin and bear it and it will get easier. And dont try any fancy positions for a while, as often different positions means that he will go deeper and that will hurt more. Just try good old missionary, and get him to be very slow, sort of an inch at a time (god this sounds awful!)
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2009): If girth is the problem, there's not much you can do, except perhaps lubricate well? And maybe let him open you up with loads of foreplay and fingering (always a good idea) before even thinking about penetration.
If his length is causing the pain, try going on top; that way you control how much of it you take in, angle, speed and force of penetration.
Good luck.
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reader, djmanny64 +, writes (24 July 2009):
I've had a similar problem with my current partner at the moment. We tried it at it cut her inside and she was in pain for a few days. The best thing for you to do is begin foreplay at the start to help comfort and get you wet basically for it to easily enter in. Get him to use lube/vaseline because that is also very good in many cases as it is pleasureable/easier to enter.
Hope this helps.
Steve
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