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writes:Me and my boyfriend are both 20 years old. He has always told me that I am his first love. He is not my first love but I do love him more than anything. we have been together for 7 months and just recently moved in together. We have wonderful days together where we are so loving but other times we are yelling at each other and pushing each other away. one night I just wanted to get away from the argument so I said I was leaving and I would be back later. Because I said that he all of the sudden started accusing me of cheating. I coundnt believe it. I have never done anything to make him think that. Also everytime we fight he feels the need to end the relationship. Of course, I start crying and we talk and everything is ok again. he has tried breaking up with me 7 times. how can I fix this relationship? please help. I love him so much and dont want to loose him.
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reader, lupa-k  +, writes (26 April 2007):
If you do want to fix the relationship, then you need to explain to him how much it hurts you when he says that. For relationships to work, it takes effort, not one party to threaten to leave at the first sign of any trouble.
But are you sure that is what you want. Personally I'd call his bluff - if hes said it 7 times, its just possible hes seeking a reaction. Maybe next time he does it, tell him 'ok then'. And I bet he'll come crawling back, tail between his legs within a couple of days. The problem is that when he says these things he's getting a response - a signal that you care - and its not healthy for the relationship that he keeps doing that, or for your emotional state
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reader, TLilly08 +, writes (26 April 2007):
If you really love him and know that he's the one for you, then you guys need to tell him that these fights and "break-ups" are hurting you. Trust me, these fights will eventually catch up to you guys in a negative way if you don't fix them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2007): sweetheart hes trien love isnt easy and when guys are upset they say alot that they dont mean, my man breaks up with me when we fight but 10 mins later were back together more than you know he cares for you and it hurts to fight just try to be more calm and talk things out and you need to tell him how you feel. i wish you all the luck
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