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writes: My boyfriend is very chauvenistic, dominating, jealous and possessive. Can these traits be changed in a man? I love him, but I am very unhappy. How can I be smarter then him and change his ways without him thinking I am trying to out smart him?
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reader, fechon +, writes (26 May 2005):
Yes, they can be changed when given a lot of love and understanding. But first he must want to change that about himself. Helping him change is not about you giving in to his needs, rather it's about not putting up with it when he's being ridiculous. Don't fight with him either, but when he acts up give him a little space and time before dealing with him. Through your actions he will know that this is not a tolerated behavior and he will adjust. But usually these jealousies are caused by insecurities, and sometimes by bad experiences so it's quite hard to shake. You may have to deal with this for a long time, if not forever.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2005): Change?If you want to change your man's behaviour,you will have two chances, no matter what strategies you employ, a fat one and a slim one.I have discovered a quicker and easier alternative. Change the ENTIRE MAN. In the case you have described, it seems the only thing to do.Look at it this way, all the things you didn't like, you will be rid of! And all the things you did like you can get from someone else.Happy hunting!
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