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writes:DC, short problem today: Last nte I admitted to my flirt of 4 yrs that I like him..he replied he always knew..but he also said he has a girlfriend he loves, and will marry someday. I said fine....well sorry, I was wrong abt us. And just before I logged off chat, he asked me to make any wish. He said he would honour it. Told him not necessary as there is no future. Then he suggested lunch or dinner. I took a few mins to reply then he told me, think abt it. Question: Is he just being kind or what? He has never taken me out and now he wants to when we have no chance? We r both in our 30s. Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for both your responses. I am the OP. Everything makes perfect sense now. What I do not understand is why I had to be a victim of such a game to this guy...nevertheless the point is clear. This aint gonna end well with me if I pursue it. I will forget the meal. Thanks again.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (19 June 2012):
 We guys act "funny" when there is a girl (YOU!) who we think we can get to put out... but we haven't asked/done so with you in the past..... AND we've let our life proceed in such a manner (like having ANOTHER girlfriend that we intend to marry), that we might never GET that chance (for you to put out!).... So we act in this manner that KEEPS YOUR INTEREST... and KEEPS YOU "on the hook" such that we might just get that chance to bed you, after all....
The outcome of this (if we're successful) is that WE get a one-night shot at you... we proceed to marry that OTHER girl.... we forget/ignore you.... so YOU get to feel like a used fool, 'cuz you fell for it.... BUT we never have to look back.....
Is that clear enough????
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2012): Possibly in his eyes it has always been JUST flirting but now he knows there has been truth behind your `jokes` and you actually might be interested, maybe he has become tempted to dally with your affections awhile. I would forget the meal because hes made it clear where his love lies. So any time with him would only be borrowed, insincere and leave you feeling used.
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