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writes: Hi there,I'm 28 and my boyfriend is 29.Today I heard that he'd posted a photograph of himself in his briefs/boxer shorts on a dating website from a friend in work.I've seen the profile on the site - but my husband insists it was a set-up, and that the people at his work are trying to get him to cheat on me.He said he would never do anything like this - and is worried he is being bullied.what do we do??
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2006): Hi, I agree with Abacadaba with the question of how did his work colleagues get such a photo of him. Also if there is any real detail about him on this profile, like things you think only he would really know? Also though, was it someone outside of his work that told you about the site?
-That would really rule out what he is saying about being 'bullied' at work.
On the flip side, I was once the victim of such a prank. I never did find out who it was that made it, but i wasn't very popular with a few of the younger ones I worked with at the time.
My gf found the profile from a link in google which had my nickname in it.
The information there fitted me alright (the age, work, where I lived and mostly, the nickname). But what cleared my record right away was that there was no real personal detail there. Nothing that wasn't simply 'generic' information that was common knowledge about me. Also the lack of photo showed that whoever made it had limited resources of me too.
But all this was easily dealt with by the fact that my gf knows I have never lied to her and would never risk such a thing.
I hope you guys can sort this out and get closure one way or another.
Good luck.
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reader, Abacadaba  +, writes (13 September 2006):
 ah this is a tough one, first off, how would people at his work get a hold of a picture of him in his boxers? if theres a way they could then maybe it could have been people at work, either having a joke or doing it in a nasty way. Also, maybe he made that account before he met you (sorry i dont know how long you have been together) and forgot to delete it, and when you found out maybe he didnt want you to know he was using an internet dating site. Or the worst case, he was using it, maybe not so much as to meet other women, but maybe just for some fun. I guess its up to you to think about his personality and your relationship, and how much you trust him and pick the most likey reason that picture is on there. Hope you sort it out
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